First of all I am SO sorry that someone is trying to shame you for making a responsible decision. He is wrong on so many levels for doing this. First, perspective: Ask your boyfriend if he even would have considered dating you if he had met you when you had a 7 year old. Probably not. Personally being anti-choice is a deal breaker for me. There's no way you can convince me you have morals, or that you care about women if you believe in forced pregnancy. The fact that it took him 4 months to suddenly take issue– clearly this wasn't a huge deal before. Sounds like he's either trying to get you to break up with him, or trying to create some kind of new power dynamic where you're in a place to need to “prove” yourself. Red flags everywhere.
No one is expecting her to treat OP's other kids better than her own with him. But, just as you said that HER kids are her priority, HIS kids are his priority. And half of his kids are with his ex. The current wife needs to accept this fact, and butt out.
Get that job if you still can and move…you're dating a predator
First of all I am SO sorry that someone is trying to shame you for making a responsible decision. He is wrong on so many levels for doing this. First, perspective: Ask your boyfriend if he even would have considered dating you if he had met you when you had a 7 year old. Probably not. Personally being anti-choice is a deal breaker for me. There's no way you can convince me you have morals, or that you care about women if you believe in forced pregnancy. The fact that it took him 4 months to suddenly take issue– clearly this wasn't a huge deal before. Sounds like he's either trying to get you to break up with him, or trying to create some kind of new power dynamic where you're in a place to need to “prove” yourself. Red flags everywhere.
No one is expecting her to treat OP's other kids better than her own with him. But, just as you said that HER kids are her priority, HIS kids are his priority. And half of his kids are with his ex. The current wife needs to accept this fact, and butt out.
Ancestry kits dont ruin families, secrets ruin families.