OP, “recently” and “moved on” shouldn't be in the same sentence. It takes time to unravel a breakup even when your ex didn't try to kill you. Point being, this new woman's not wrong. You dragged a lot of baggage from your past (including your ex herself) into this new relationship and didn't tell her about it. Your best shot here is probably to tell this new woman that you're sorry and that you're going to spend the next few months trying to finally conclude this breakup. Leave her alone while you let things die down. Also, stop putting your personal business on social media. Even people without homicidal exes don't do that if they want their adult relationships to work. You tried to move on too quickly and you were way too public about it. Abuse victims shouldn't have to spend their whole lives hiding. But they do owe it to the people they interact with to at least divulge that it could be dangerous. You deprived your new girlfriend of the opportunity to make an informed decision about you. That's not fair.
Go to your graduation. Choose you. You deserve your day in the spotlight. Becoming a doctor is a massive accomplishment and I'm so proud of you! You're going to do amazing things and help a lot of people. Missing a wedding isn't the end of the world no matter how much your family might say it is. You're just as important and if they can't see that, it's their loss.
forgivable? really man. She's for the street.
OP, “recently” and “moved on” shouldn't be in the same sentence. It takes time to unravel a breakup even when your ex didn't try to kill you. Point being, this new woman's not wrong. You dragged a lot of baggage from your past (including your ex herself) into this new relationship and didn't tell her about it. Your best shot here is probably to tell this new woman that you're sorry and that you're going to spend the next few months trying to finally conclude this breakup. Leave her alone while you let things die down. Also, stop putting your personal business on social media. Even people without homicidal exes don't do that if they want their adult relationships to work. You tried to move on too quickly and you were way too public about it. Abuse victims shouldn't have to spend their whole lives hiding. But they do owe it to the people they interact with to at least divulge that it could be dangerous. You deprived your new girlfriend of the opportunity to make an informed decision about you. That's not fair.
Go to your graduation. Choose you. You deserve your day in the spotlight. Becoming a doctor is a massive accomplishment and I'm so proud of you! You're going to do amazing things and help a lot of people. Missing a wedding isn't the end of the world no matter how much your family might say it is. You're just as important and if they can't see that, it's their loss.