I have been struggling with weight insecurity since I was 13 years old, and although I have never been overweight, I have never been exactly skinny either. Right now I'm 5' 4'' and 135 pounds. I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for over a year, and it has mostly gone great.
He's very religious, even though I personally am agnostic. But that dynamic hasn't affected our relationship at all, until yesterday.
For the past week I have been dealing with a lot of anxiety and stress related to my weight insecurity, and I told my boyfriend about what I was struggling with. His response was to tell me to "fast for 40 days and drink nothing but water" and that would "take care of any extra fat" on me.
This did nothing but make me feel so much worse, and when I told him that he started to blame me for not being a vegetarian like him. He said "then you might as well eat nothing but vegetables for 40 days" and supposedly if I had done that when we first started dating "the vegetarianism wouldn't have allowed" my weight to become a concern/insecurity.
I started crying after he said this because I was/am already exhausted from dealing with this insecurity for a week, and when I thought my boyfriend could provide me with some comfort, he made it so much worse.
My boyfriend is now annoyed with me for crying, and said I should "get more like" him. He's 6' 0'' and 135 pounds. I feel trapped and exhausted with no one to turn to, what are some ways I can go about this situation?
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