I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now, and he has a very blunt personality. We live in Korea for context, he is Korean and I am not. Most Korean women are slim and petite. I am short, stocky, and recently, because of a hormonal imbalance, I've gained a lot of weight. I gained the weight before I met him. I am now on a realistic meal plan, designed by a dietitian, with my hormone issue kept in mind. As well as this, I go to a boxing gym 3 x a week, and walking 40 minutes every day.
Today, my boxing trainer posted a video of me on Instagram doing the training and the caption was "she is growing in strength every day. She is beautiful and after her diet she will be the most beautiful." I showed my bf, just because I felt like a badass doing the boxing training (I am not sporty or well coordinated at all), and he laughed and said it's a marketing tactic. I agreed with that. Then, suddenly, he said "I see your inside that's why I'm with you, not because of your outside, but I am not worried about anyone stealing you because no other man will ever just see your inside and not the way you look on the outside".
This statement hurt me a lot, because, while I am overweight, I don't think I am necessarily unattractive. I take pride in my clothing, my hair, my make up, and always try to present myself as best I can. Before I met him, I also went on plenty of dates.
I guess I want to know what would you do in this situation? This isn't the first time he has made comments about my body. His nickname for me is the Korean word for "fatty" but it never bothered me much until he said what he said. My self-esteem is on the ground.
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