Long story short: I don’t have much of a relationship with my father but , my fiancé wants us to get permission from my father before we get married. It’s a cultural thing that is apparently more important to him than me since he gave me the ultimatum of including my father in the marriage process or ending the relationship. I agreed to include my father because I didn’t want my fiancé to break up with me , but now I feel very icky about the whole relationship . He knows how much trauma my father has caused both myself and my mother . I literally want nothing to do with him at this moment in my life.
Background context: I initially agreed to include my father in the process . This was back when him and I were not speaking but cordial enough to where I would reach out on holidays via text and he would respond. In January, I called my father to try and fix our relationship, mainly because I had promised my fiancé that I would . The conversation just ended horribly as my father refused to take any accountability for his actions and hung up on me. We haven’t spoken since then .
I just feel like my fiancé is putting me in a very compromising position. I feel like he thinks this cultural process is more important than me and it’s breaking my heart.
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