Reading your post felt smothering. You’re so focussed on yourself you can’t see that your neediness is driving your son away. Continually arguing with him about his life choices and trying to persuade him into what you what is suffocating him. It’s selfish. It’s unkind and unhelpful. It’s to the point where he can’t even tell you things about his life for fear of your reaction.
What about what he wants? Doesn’t that matter? Your therapist is right but I also doubt you’ll ever change so maybe it is futile to continue. You’re still looking at ways of getting him to do what you want and that’s not going to happen. Stop making him justify his life choices. Back off. Be happy for him. Keep in touch and go visit if you’re invited. Because whinging that Skype visits twice a week aren’t enough will only lead to fewer Skype visits. You are exhausting. Just stop.
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I’m going to be a bit more blunt than most.
Reading your post felt smothering. You’re so focussed on yourself you can’t see that your neediness is driving your son away. Continually arguing with him about his life choices and trying to persuade him into what you what is suffocating him. It’s selfish. It’s unkind and unhelpful. It’s to the point where he can’t even tell you things about his life for fear of your reaction.
What about what he wants? Doesn’t that matter? Your therapist is right but I also doubt you’ll ever change so maybe it is futile to continue. You’re still looking at ways of getting him to do what you want and that’s not going to happen. Stop making him justify his life choices. Back off. Be happy for him. Keep in touch and go visit if you’re invited. Because whinging that Skype visits twice a week aren’t enough will only lead to fewer Skype visits. You are exhausting. Just stop.