0 views
Chloya, 18 y.o.
Location:
Room subject:
To Start live! video press there
Live! Live Sex Chat rooms Chloya
Date: December 6, 2022
The ad code is not a valid HTML code.
Fix the ad code in the Theme options.
Fix the ad code in the Theme options.
Bingo!
Boy if I had a chance to go back in time to save myself some peace and productivity that I wasted on stuff like this. This is unnecessary torment. Don’t bother with a relationship just focus on your education and career and travel…lots of travel. You are wasting some beautiful time with someone that is not on the same page as you are.
Did she just fall over and land on your lap ?♀️?♀️ absolutely crossed boundaries and doubt your girlfriend would be happy to hear it. She’s not much of a friend to your girl either is she.
You seem intent on trying to fix this so the relationship can continue, which is your own purgative, so this is my suggestion.
It’s time to get blunt. She clearly has no issue being blunt with you about her own opinions or answering questions (even if they were meant to be playful), so now it’s your turn. Some of your comments imply that you’ve attempted to tell her how you feel but she’s either A) not picking up what you’re putting down or B) she genuinely doesn’t care about what you’re feeling. So, time to find out which it is.
Lay it out. Don’t beat around the bush. Explain to her that those comments she made about you directly and her calling back to what she “likes” or her past experiences hurt you. Sure, your feelings are your own issue ultimately, but she doesn’t just get to say shit for the sake of “being honest” or being a “blunt” person without any responsibility of the results. Tell her directly “I don’t like how you touch me when we’re intimate. It does not make me feel good, it does not turn me on, it’s ruining the vibe for me sometimes” and then tell her what you do like and what you’re preferences are. You also need to address the GIANT red flag that is asking to see another man’s – no, a FRIEND’s HOOKUP/PARTNER’s – penis while dating you. I’m going to assume this bothered you, so tell her that. That is not cool, that is something you consider to be a breach of trust or crossing a boundary for you while in a relationship with someone. Do not let her get away with it or explain it away as if it’s not a big deal (especially if you believe it was a problem and a big deal).
Once you lay it out for her, clear as day, in black and white, no caveats about your insecurities or whatever, then see how she responds. If it clicks for her and she finally understands what she’s done to you, and she shows genuine remorse and makes an effort to change how she’s treating you in the bedroom, then maybe you have a chance at fixing this. You might be able to get past it.
My fear for you, is that she won’t get it. She’ll deny, again, any responsibility for saying things that hurt you. She’ll ignore your wishes when it comes to how she touches your body, which is another huge red flag you shouldn’t continue to ignore after explaining it to her. She’ll brush you off and tell you it’s your own fault. If this is how she responds, then I think it’s time to take a huge step back and really think about this – is this how you want a partner to treat you? Is this how you want to feel while in a committed relationship? Do you really want to risk feeling down in yourself, questioning yourself, and continue to tank your self-esteem for this one girl?
That’s my advice – take your turn at being blunt, and stop letting her get away with just ignoring you, your feelings, or skating by because “that’s just how she is.” Then, believe what you see in her response. Don’t make excuses for her, don’t keep looking for only the positive, and make the best decisions for you accordingly.
Oh my… That dude is rating extremely high in the creep-o-meter. Dude is probably obsessed with you, be careful, people like that knows no boundaries, try not to be alone in the same room with guy… WTF…
Good on you to block him everywhere, don't be afraid to throw a punch or two if you feel endangered, that guy is insane.
Thank you, it's been really bugging me bc I honestly thought we were doing well and even in heated arguments, I would never want to say or do anything that would make him feel less than.
I understand that I opened myself up to it by saying “as a husband” but I still really need to know exactly what he meant.
I understand, I think if I could prove myself aswell I definitely would coz I would be annoyed for being accused in the first place. That guy in the club that shook your hand probably thought he had a chance with you once u denied him, he thought il try her later when she’s more drunk and going home n then obviously seen you n been like “hey remember me!” Like can’t even say hello or smile at a guy somtimes n they think your flirting.
Haha ?OP, friends don’t cross boundaries like that, even a sweet person like me knows that is completely inappropriate and disrespectful
This is Reddit. Most people here don’t even know what a relationship is.
Thanks. I think it'll be much easier after I move tomorrow.
I appreciate your response. Thank you for questioning my post and asking difficult questions. It is difficult to provide an unbiased point of view.
My wife is allowed to go to the dentist or opticians, but I would be the one paying for these and I simply do not have the funds. If I paid for an eye test tomorrow we would run out of food, or electricity, and I could not afford to travel to work. Dentistry is several hundred pounds which I physically cannot pay for.
I have never discouraged her from seeing friends and family, they unfortunately live several hours away and the train tickets are not affordable. I was very sad to hear she has been avoiding her campus or going out due to the cost, I don't believe I ever told her that those things were out of our reach. Socialising and time outside is necessary for good mental and physical health, and I hate the idea of her being stuck indoors away from anyone. I only see other people due to travelling for work but her course content is now entirely live!.
Thank you for your honesty.
It's not going to get better. HE is not going to get better.
Consider that when making a decision about whether to stay with this man.
u/wifiisweak, it looks like you're trying to post a throwaway submission. Your account is too young and/or your comment karma is too low.
The right way to do it is to create a brand new Reddit account that begins with ThrowRA.
Please create a new account that starts with ThrowRA in the username and try again. Please note that we will not make exceptions to this rule.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Ok… I have done this a few times but it never hurts to spell it out one more time.
You can't get into a relationship without getting a bunch of it on you. It like separating two boards that have been glued together. A little bit of one board always goes with the other. So you will be walking around with some of the other person stuck to you for a while. It takes about 3 monthe to six months to get past this in any meaningful way. (I have a standard rule for clients that thay make NO Life-Changing decisions for the first year out of a serious relationship and that year needs to be spent sorting out baggage.)
Moving back from that there are things you can do to keep on track and not backslide:
a.) No Contact with the old friend. Period. Full stop. No emails, texts, phonecalls, messages in a bottle, smoke signals etc etc . Nothing Zip. Zero. Nada.
b.) Memoribilia goes in a box. Outta sight; outta mind. Souvenirs, gifts, gum wrappers, etc etc all get put away. Preferably someplace not easily accessed impulsively (see: Guideline A.)
c.) Avoid places you have gone before AND places where it is likely that you former friend would frequent. You will probably have to let go the friends as well as you don't need any offers to “help patch things up” or “unsolicited updates” on who and what said former friend is doing.
d.) No emotion-driven entertainment, including chick-flicks, Hallmark Hall of Fame, “can't-live-without-you-themed” music and Romance Novels.
e.) Get da Fuck outta yer House. Do NOT ISOLATE. Identify two new activities that you had not gotten around to because heaven and earth moved around your Ex. The more physical these activities are the better.
f.) Get da Fuck outta yer House. Reconnect with those folks who dropped off your radar because you had assumed that the love of your life was going to be the be-all and end-all of Life as we know it.
g.) Get da Fuck outta yer House. Don't do anything in yer house or alone that you can't do someplace where there are people. At the very least you should be out for brisk walks around the block once a day. Set yourself a goal of saying something to at least two NEW people each day.
Get to work. At 14 you are too damn young to get yourself into shit like this.
Time to get yourself out.
Any questions?
u/xBlackguard, it looks like you're trying to post a throwaway submission. Your account is too young and/or your comment karma is too low.
The right way to do it is to create a brand new Reddit account that begins with ThrowRA.
Please create a new account that starts with ThrowRA in the username and try again. Please note that we will not make exceptions to this rule.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Update when you find out what she is lying about.
He’s abusive. Please leave.
I agree with the others telling you to be honest with your brother, about the gf and her posting videos of you on TikTok.
Secondly want to add that if you have a TikTok account, you can go to her profile, find videos with you in them, and then report them to TikTok with the reason being that you did not give her permission to post videos with you in them, and have asked her not to do so.
They will make her take the videos down, and give her a warning. If she keeps it up, they can delete her account.
You both are good people. Maybe you should ask him for a lunch or dinner (without you son being there) and just come clean and apologize to him. Ask him for his fortunes first. You then tell him what you have been feeling and ask him if he would reconsider seeing you again. Let him process and don’t bombarded him with questions or if he make his decision and etc. let him have his time and he does feel the same way as you, I’m very sure he will tell you. Baby step. I have a feeling he is still in love with you. Please be kind to this gentleman. He deserves the world. And yes, your parents need to apologize to him. A good person is hard to find. And your parents aren’t it.
So strange! I wonder what leads to that and why
I don’t know why I thought it would get better either. She has abandonment issues and I thought by showing her I wasn’t going to abandon her she would be more loving. I do think she loves me I just don’t think she understands that I need more love then I’m getting. I don’t think she realizes we’re losing connection because she never needed it to the intensity that I did and when it started to lessen she might not have even noticed. I’m gonna try to talk to her about this and actually try to tell her how I feel because I don’t ever do that. Thanks for your comment.
She's living her life on her terms, you're living your life on her terms. Maybe that's why it's not working. Your present and future have nothing to do with her.
No one here knows what's going on in her head. Your best bet would be to talk to your girlfriend.
If I had to guess, since they were together for four years, marriage was probably discussed at some point. He probably wouldn't make that commitment to her and now that he's committed in that way to someone else, it made her feel like shit and like she wasn't good enough to marry. That doesn't mean she doesn't love you or that she still has feelings for him. Insecurities can be a real bitch.
But looking at your replies in here, it looks like you're hell bent on thinking she's still got a thing for her ex. As I said, no one here knows what's going on in her head. Only she does. So you can do one of two things. One: assume the worst, let your negative feelings over a guess stew, and break up with her. Two: talk to your girlfriend. Express your feelings calmly and figure out what's going on in a non-accusatory way. Best of luck to you.
My stepdaughter has this problem. She was moved hours away from my husband so he didn’t see her as often. But she hated her step father. So that is the difference. But her mom and stepdad paid for half the wedding. To keep the peace she had her grandfather walk her down the aisle and for the father daughter dance. But your story sounds like your mom wants you to do what she wants not what you want. So I vote dad. Maybe a second dance in a row if you want stepdad too. But up to you
First and foremost, do not bail your boyfriend out financially, this is NOT your debt. It simply isn't.
Also don't go back to dancing for him, if YOU want to go, go for it.
This is of course assuming you played no role in him accruing the debt. If you did, then I could see you feeling responsible.
How long have you been together?
What type of debt is it? (CC, car loan, payday loan, etc)
he was accusing you of violence intentionally, probably to exert power in some strange way, knowing it would make you feel shit. however he did not think you would have such self respect as to walk out: this took him by surprise and took away his power. therefore, to regain that power he not only manipulated you by crying to try to make you feel guilty, also claiming ignorance, but he also PHYSICALLY RESTRAINED YOU. let that sink in please.
this man is abusive and it’s already showing. please leave him!
She needs inpatient care. She's becoming violent, right now it's herself she's hitting, but she could escalate and attack you. She's repeatedly threatened suicide. Call her family and get her into a hospital. They can get her the proper treatment.
Therapy isn't working. It's not gonna work if she's not talking about this, not the right therapist, or type of therapy or all of the above. She might need meds too. Leaving her isn't abandoning her. You're mental well-being is just as important as hers.
To all the people saying it’s from IV drug use. Have you ever IV’d drugs?! I did for ten years. Only time there would be a spray of blood would be if I hit an artery. Don’t talk about thing you know nothing about.
Sounds like projection and looks like a parade of red flags. Get out of there.
19-21… my interpretation was that there is much bragging that might be fantasy based. I wouldn’t be surprised if she ended up being a virgin also. My experienced and braggy first fuck was an actual virgin who was embarrassed.
Whats life without atleast one toxic relationship you don't wanna leave?
you can’t even a 5 year relationship over your partner continuously not doing something you’ve asked for? seems pretty run of the mill