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You tried to bring down her confidence in front of her friends and it worked. Now she doesn’t want to be around you. Either she gets over it or she doesn’t.
I hope she will agree to go to counseling with you…. Because it’s never a good sign when your partner is shutting down. And she clearly is. It’s usually the kids of death in a relationship. She feels unsafe with you emotionally, she has lost the ability to be vulnerable with you. And when she’s lost that, she doesn’t have much faith in her partner. Get in front this quickly. Read some articles about this behavior and beg for a counselor. You should both go separately before getting a marriage counselor.
Wow, this is doomed as your true feelings will come to light.
Poor guy.
That’s fair. If I hear back from her, I’ll most likely just establish that this isn’t going anywhere. I almost want to end it myself to spare anyone any hurt feelings.
Morals and communication are the key to any relationship.
You're too damn old for her and these bullshit games. Try growing up, and then have a relationship closer to your age.
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When men hit women, after the incident they often feel sorry but also always find a way to blame it on the woman they hit. This is an abusive person at their core “I’m sorry I hit you , BUT, and it’s a big but, this was always your fault and you need to change so I don’t do that again.
Where is their reflection about their behavior about how THEY need to change? Because as a non abusive person if I did hit my husband for whatever reason I would step back and reflect on my behavior immediately and apologize before he came asking for one. Like the second I hit him. But again I am not abusive so I would not ever find myself in this situation.
Continue keeping your distance.
Yeah the kindest thing I have to say about you is you are definitely a bad partner. Do her a favor and break up with her so she can find someone who will actually love her and respect her. So she can find someone that isn't scummy enough to think that the potential gene inheritance of the kids is enough reason to break up with them
You’re right, that’s very unhealthy. What’s her schedule like, day-to-day? Does she have any friends?
I suggested we have a one-side open relationship, in a way that allows me to date some men and get pregnant from and that's the only way I think it can work out ( Im against him dating other women as it's not needed as I need it ), and he is mad about that, I don't want to lose him but something needs to be done , what should I do?
Yeah i don't believe this is real.
Because in the end he said he dated me because he was lonely. So I have this fear I just wasn’t attractive to him at all and he was lying to keep me around
I have an action plan for shit like this.
1 acknowledge the issue, and that it's a problem
2 decide and declare that you are going to work on it
3 communicate this to your loved one, and mean the fuck out of it
4 begin earnestly working to improve
sounds like you've already done step 1, which is often the really ifficult one. when you get to step three, make sure he knows what you're doing. ask him to kindly let you know if you get “that way”, again. encourage his feedback.
and be patient with yourself– change is often difficult to make. you may also consider seeing a professional to discuss anger issues. they may be able to give you ways of dealing with your anger when shit happens.
good luck! make your intentions clear to your bf, and get him on your team.
Don’t do it. If he’ll walk out on one wife he’ll walk out on another. Never mind how much he “loves” you. He doesn’t.
Inform her that she is failing as your life partner. Her behavior is emotionally and physically abusive (by not helping you in an emergency). Love is not a solid reason to tolerate abuse. You deserve a better life partner.
My guess is he was trying to hide his unfounded annoyance and the crude joke (albeit, funny af. I definitely make those jokes) broke the facade. He's telling you what he really thinks about you and women and it isn't good, so believe him.
I don't care what kind of excuses he tries to throw, stressed at work or school or family drama or tries to pin it on you for pmsing or tired. I've heard it all and I stayed with the guy 3 years too long.
Please, you're so young, you don't have to put up with an asshat that you feel the need to control your speech around. You should be able to fuck a guy and talk about self pleasure.
Talk to a therapist. If you can’t afford one, try an on-line marital therapist (just 1:1) or check out your local University or family services or even church/temple/synagogue.
You are suffering from a common problem, which is a mix of both poor communication and disrespect. The therapist will help you start an adult conversation, which gives him a chance to step up. When If he doesn’t, then the therapist will help you make a decision about what to do next and how to best provide for yourself and your children in the process.
Our combined net worth is $300
Well that’s about $299 better than I was doing at 19/20.
It sounds like neither of you are ready for this. If an abortion is something you’d consider, I’m not American but I’ve seen people link some great resources for places to get one if you’re in a red state. There’s also always adoption.
“I should be ashamed of wanting it so often” I mean, she said no every time, so that need/want never got satisfied. But also, I don’t like how she’s trying to shame you for having a sex drive. It’s perfectly normal to want sex, even if she doesn’t care for it.
If you’re just asking once, and immediately accepting a no, then she doesn’t really have anything to complain about. You’re being respectful of her boundaries, you ask every time (like she requested) and you accept her answer.
She has said some things that contradict each other really. She said she’d be fine with sex once every while, and she instructed you to ask. But now says she sometimes finds it revolting and doesn’t want you bringing it up. She told you to ask, and now she’s shaming you for it.
She needs to make up her mind. If she finds sex revolting and doesn’t ever want to do it, that’s fine, but she needs to be honest with you about this.
She can’t just say that you need to be more considerate when you’ve been doing exactly what she requested.
I hope he's receptive. Good luck and sorry this happened to you. When my wife broke my trust, I stayed because I needed to be around my kids. She never regained my trust though and our marriage was never the same again. I would do it again for my children though. We are of course divorced now that the kids are 18+.
It doesn’t matter, just please do it
Absolutely right. You should not let her or other people’s insecurities dictate how you on-line your life.
You should ask her whether this is something you two can work through, while making it clear, you yielding to her demands is unreasonable and not the kind of relationship you want to be in anyway.
So, is it at all possible for her to come and visit for a few hours at the set? Is yes, maybe seeing it all will ease her mind. Because she has most likely painted some unreal horrendous picture in her mind.
BUT, my advice is maybe to rethink this relationship entirely. For your sake. Your gf stormed out, saying she rather break up with you than be happy for all your accomplishments. I would think it was sooo cool if my partner got to work on a movie set with Ryan Reynolds!! I would be all over that shit. Cheering annd encouraging. Make lunches to bring to set. I would be so proud of partner. Your gf puts her insecurities above your happiness or your relationship. How can you ever trust a person who would do that?
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Be fair. This relationship should not end in marriage.
You just need to on-line and learn from this. After a single week of knowing a stranger, he told you he’d never leave you and that he loved you. How could he logically know that?
Then, through the normal process of how dating is supposed to work, he realized you weren’t a fit. To now be fair to you, in most situations we could leave it at that and take the experience gained towards the future.
But the further problems worth pointing out are around some of the specific actions. You say he became a different person. Relationships might naturally evolve over time, but you were two weeks in. You had an expectation that wasn’t met, and you brought it up as you should.
In a healthy relationship, a logical response would be to address the situation and find sustainable compromise making you both happy. Instead, his response was “don’t worry.” How does that fix your concern?
Then the communication turns to booty calls. Obviously a red flag given the situation. But alright, you then find out he’s talking to at least one other person (how?) inappropriately given that you’re exclusive. You obviously know not saying anything was a mistake so there’s no need to harp on it.
He then had a “breakdown.” There’s a reason it’s in quotes; it’s bullshit. He used it to break up with you. To be fair to him, he (or anyone) didn’t need any reason to end things. That’s simply the decision he made. Now, he’s an asshole for lying, but he told you over and over that he can’t handle a relationship expecting you to just respect the decision and move on.
Instead, you said you’d be there for him. You then checked in on him a week later. You were met with cold replies. Why? Because he was just trying to break up with you. You pressed the issue and he was finally honest about it; he doesn’t see you as a fit.
I now need to take a step back and make it crystal clear that you’ve done nothing wrong, nor are you a bad or lesser person. You’re just not right FOR HIM.
I doubt the issue here was you being clingy. You matched his energy. Like I said, you need to learn from that, but again, that’s not the cause of him ending things. Your “clinginess” happened after he’d already dumped you.
So I promise you you’re all good and I can certainly empathize. Anecdotally, I’m a guy and I’m happily married. I tell you this so that you know I’m not here being negative for the sake of being negative. I love love and wish you nothing but the absolute best. But I give advice on here because I’ve been through it all and learned from it. You both were excited and rushed into things due to that excitement alone. You were still feeling that excitement. He wasn’t. You refused to let it go. I promise you that when it’s right, it won’t be this very hot. Good luck.
I do not think you did anything wrong. If he felt so horrible about you fucking the guys when you were in the talking stage, he shouldn't have started a relationship with you or ended the relationship. It doesn't make his cheating okay.
Good luck OP, I hope everything works out for you.
Your lost is full of reasons that this relationship was never going to work out. So block him and move on with your life. You’re only 28.
I’m generally not in favor of ultimatums in relationships but this is the kind of thing that is absolutely non-negotiable in this situation. OP, this dude needs therapy, badly.
Pre-law isn't really a thing. It does kind of make sense she studied it because it would be a very scammy sort of degree to get, and it sounds like someone scammed her out of applying to FAFSA.
Is she related to Steve-O by any chance?
Working on it!
Just know on top of it all, he is equivalently going through a second, male, puberty, and if you know anything about teen boys, it’s that they have a naked time and anger and aggression can factor in.
Be mindful he is in a mentally volatile place from the hormones and make note to be extra mindful and open to him. Don’t react defensive, “I’m not being transphobic!” Is the WRONG way to do this! When he mentions it sit down calmly, and apologize for coming off that way. Validate his feelings. Something like “I didn’t realize I was making you feel that way! I’m so sorry son. Can you explain what I said that was rude so I can make an effort to be more supportive of you, and work to be a better ally?”
As long as you are open and inviting to change, you will get through this. Just don’t get stuck in “I’m not even a little bigoted!” Mindset because that just makes growth harder. We all can be better to eachother and be better ally’s to those different to us. It’s a little humbling to accept we aren’t the best people, but that gives us the ability to be better if we awknoledge it.
Right you are. With all of the advantages us men enjoy, I have no problem with you enjoying your free drinks.
And if these poor guys are really that upset they can easily go get those free drinks they want at their local LGBTQ+ establishment. But they better spend that same hour getting ready that you do 😉
Was gonna say, why on earth does this come as a surprise ? it's usually a given
I'm not reading your post because it doesn't matter.
People can end a relationship at any time for any reason. It doesn't matter if you don't think her reasons are valid or not, if she doesn't want to continue the relationship, there is nothing you can do about that.