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Frank and Rolf, 20 y.o.
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Date: October 16, 2022
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You didn’t cause anything. He kept insisting on long term, you changed your mind and realised you wanted that as well, he rejected it.
Idk if he also changed his mind, but it sounds more like this is a manipulation tactic on his end. What his end goal is here I couldn’t possibly guess, but the facts are that he lied to you, led you on, and is now blaming you for… being upset at that?
The best course of action is to break up, distance yourself from this guy for a good while, and no, don’t apologise. If this is how he acts and treats you now, just imagine how bad it would’ve gotten in an actual LTR.
lmfao a deal breaker for what ? You don't like being uninvited, therefore you wouldn't go to his party ? Oh no 🙁
I will definitely google that and try to explain to him. I know it comes from a lack of skills as we both are autistic and autism makes communication and connection harder. I am a bit different on that because I studied psychology and I try to close the gap between me and people. He do not have interest in psychology though so he doesn't understand the importance of emotional support. He does care about me but he doesn't understand my needs. I hope to be able to explain things well enough to him. Maybe if we work together we'll be able to overcome this.
But you are right, change can be difficult for adult… So I'm a bit worried.
As far as I understand, in traditional Islamic marriages, the man's salary covers the household, and the woman's salary is for herself, right? So it's not unreasonable for you to have this expectation. And his reaction is kind is weird in that context? Why is he so het up about it? (apologies if I have this wrong, but you said Arab country so I assumeed Islamic practise)
Notice how your reaction now is to cave in and immediately agree to him, and to doubt yourself, in order to placate him? This is not a good sign of how you and he will cope with future conflict.
I think it is good if you do postpone the marriage. You both need to have a clear and unemotional discussion about finances.
Has a mahr gift been discussed and agreed on?
Is he going to take on responsibility for his expenses and the household expenses?
If not, when you are both working, what did he have in mind for how personal and joint expenses should be handled? (bear in mind you and he might have different ideas and the aim is to reach a fair decision)
Also, what did you and he have in mind if you both decide to have children and you are on maternity leave. How would expenses he handled then?
When you are older, and need to take care of parents and children, how will expenses be handled?
When he said 'our finances', what did he picture? A joint account for household stuff? Or a joint account for everything? How would spending be managed (eeg could either of you use a joint account for personal spending?)
These are all important things to discuss, and can get emotional. So it is good to get them out in the open.
I wanted to say, you are not wrong for having a different financial model in mind than he has. What's important is to talk about it.
I don't like that he said he was disgusted by what you said. That's not very kind and makes it difficult to compromise.
Man, if you wife wants to quit smoking the least you can do for her is smoking when she is not around. That way you would show her a minimum of empathy. When you are smoking in front of her you are sabotaging her. Quitting smoking is quite stressful. Don't understimate the effect it has on your partner.
Anyway, man , do you want to remain friends so she can mantain your lifestyle? Now we know what really matters to you.
If you ever watched an action movie where the hero is walking away and everything blows up behind them, This is what you should do
Blow up that relationship and walk away. Be the hero in your own life.
She’s a naked mess. If she’s been with you for 5 years and she’s engaged already I will bet there’s been some overlap. Let him have her. You can do better. He gets a monkey branching cheater. You get off the hook clean.