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I can’t even imagine trying to be intimate let alone sleep in the same bed as someone who literally sleeps in their own filth. You’ve tried to communicate it countless times including his mother and he’s not taking the advice. Best to move on and find someone that doesn’t have swamp ass.
This sounds like someone who doesn’t know how to meet you in the middle. Do you ever get a feeling she’s looking for a way out?
Would you be okay with her being friends with her ex? Texting her inappropriate photos and offering to bring them meds? There are boundaries and you are clearly crossing them.
I have some tips you could try; 1. Keep reminding yourself that the only person you are in control of is yourself.
And don't just say it, practice it. For example, next time your boyfriend doesn't follow through with what he tells you, don't say anything to him about it. Remind yourself that he is free to make his own decisions about how he spends his time.
I think sometimes we end up trying to control our partners because we are overvaluing the relationship. We hold on too tight because we are terrified the whole thing will capsize otherwise.
For you to be able to take a step back from control, you need to be able to say “If we ever break up one day, I'm going to be ok.” You have to accept that that's an outcome that could happen and that it wouldn't be the end of your world.
Your behaviour is not happening in a vacuum. It must be frustrating to think you're on the same page, or you're in the loop about something and then have him turn around and do something else.
It's probably causing you some anxiety, because this kind of behaviour makes you wonder. Is he the kind of guy who can commit to things? Does he take anything seriously? Maybe he isn't really interested in the gym, but then why can't he just say so? Is he hiding some parts of himself from me?
These are all valid questions, don't brush them aside by trying to push him to follow through or meet his goals, etc. Let things flow naturally so you can see the real him, and make the best decision for yourself about how much you're investing in the relationship.
Your boyfriend is also playing a part in this dynamic. Don't carry all the blame/responsibility on your back! Forgive yourself.
I have some tips you could try; 1. Keep reminding yourself that the only person you are in control of is yourself.
And don't just say it, practice it. For example, next time your boyfriend doesn't follow through with what he tells you, don't say anything to him about it. Remind yourself that he is free to make his own decisions about how he spends his time.
I think sometimes we end up trying to control our partners because we are overvaluing the relationship. We hold on too tight because we are terrified the whole thing will capsize otherwise.
For you to be able to take a step back from control, you need to be able to say “If we ever break up one day, I'm going to be ok.” You have to accept that that's an outcome that could happen and that it wouldn't be the end of your world.
Your behaviour is not happening in a vacuum. It must be frustrating to think you're on the same page, or you're in the loop about something and then have him turn around and do something else.
It's probably causing you some anxiety, because this kind of behaviour makes you wonder. Is he the kind of guy who can commit to things? Does he take anything seriously? Maybe he isn't really interested in the gym, but then why can't he just say so? Is he hiding some parts of himself from me?
These are all valid questions, don't brush them aside by trying to push him to follow through or meet his goals, etc. Let things flow naturally so you can see the real him, and make the best decision for yourself about how much you're investing in the relationship.
Your boyfriend is also playing a part in this dynamic. Don't carry all the blame/responsibility on your back! Forgive yourself.
I have some tips you could try; 1. Keep reminding yourself that the only person you are in control of is yourself.
And don't just say it, practice it. For example, next time your boyfriend doesn't follow through with what he tells you, don't say anything to him about it. Remind yourself that he is free to make his own decisions about how he spends his time.
I think sometimes we end up trying to control our partners because we are overvaluing the relationship. We hold on too tight because we are terrified the whole thing will capsize otherwise.
For you to be able to take a step back from control, you need to be able to say “If we ever break up one day, I'm going to be ok.” You have to accept that that's an outcome that could happen and that it wouldn't be the end of your world.
Your behaviour is not happening in a vacuum. It must be frustrating to think you're on the same page, or you're in the loop about something and then have him turn around and do something else.
It's probably causing you some anxiety, because this kind of behaviour makes you wonder. Is he the kind of guy who can commit to things? Does he take anything seriously? Maybe he isn't really interested in the gym, but then why can't he just say so? Is he hiding some parts of himself from me?
These are all valid questions, don't brush them aside by trying to push him to follow through or meet his goals, etc. Let things flow naturally so you can see the real him, and make the best decision for yourself about how much you're investing in the relationship.
Your boyfriend is also playing a part in this dynamic. Don't carry all the blame/responsibility on your back! Forgive yourself.
I have some tips you could try; 1. Keep reminding yourself that the only person you are in control of is yourself.
And don't just say it, practice it. For example, next time your boyfriend doesn't follow through with what he tells you, don't say anything to him about it. Remind yourself that he is free to make his own decisions about how he spends his time.
I think sometimes we end up trying to control our partners because we are overvaluing the relationship. We hold on too tight because we are terrified the whole thing will capsize otherwise.
For you to be able to take a step back from control, you need to be able to say “If we ever break up one day, I'm going to be ok.” You have to accept that that's an outcome that could happen and that it wouldn't be the end of your world.
Your behaviour is not happening in a vacuum. It must be frustrating to think you're on the same page, or you're in the loop about something and then have him turn around and do something else.
It's probably causing you some anxiety, because this kind of behaviour makes you wonder. Is he the kind of guy who can commit to things? Does he take anything seriously? Maybe he isn't really interested in the gym, but then why can't he just say so? Is he hiding some parts of himself from me?
These are all valid questions, don't brush them aside by trying to push him to follow through or meet his goals, etc. Let things flow naturally so you can see the real him, and make the best decision for yourself about how much you're investing in the relationship.
Your boyfriend is also playing a part in this dynamic. Don't carry all the blame/responsibility on your back! Forgive yourself.
You should have at least say hi to her because you don't know what tomorrow might be ok. You might still want a date with her next time but that act you shown have ruined your date request you might need on a very good day.
1-2 times a week is probably average for your ages if you both work so naked, unless you have been together for a short time. Then it would seem lower than average due to NRE.
Boundaries are for our own actions, not others’
I prefer jewellery for birthdays. Your Christmas gift is perfect.
I mean I'd get tested and end things. By all means if you think trust can be repaired thru her getting clean then good luck. But I do believe that while she's using there's no way she's the one. I'm sorry this has been happening. And I hope she gets help for her addiction because that's the big thing she needs. If you decide to support her thru this I'd consider counseling. Regardless that may help you
lol me and my girlfriend have knows each other since we were 17 and just started dating now we are a month in and we aren’t getting each other anything at max I got her a key chain and she did the same for me so no dude u don’t need to give her jewelry
“Seeing as you keep pushing my boundaries and make me uncomfortable. I feel it’s time to end our aquaitenceship (spelling?)” and then you block him.
Why don't you go broach the idea with her parents, assuming you're going to their house. Well even if not, they might be able to help you set up something really nice, while you're there at Xmas Eve would you be able to sneak away for some privacy in the backyard or something? You could have a whole set up waiting out there for just the two of you. Pop the question and enjoy a few moments of solitude with your fiance then reenter the party hand in hand. Or something good luck mate
She seems like you guys are not good together. Life’s too short to deal with that much drama in 8 months
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Fat guys often project their insecurities.
If he's joking about the size of his breasts , more than likely he's self conscious about his own weight / man boobs.
I would suggest approaching him and telling him how these sorts of comments/jokes are affecting you.
Your husband had been accommodating so far, with staying home while you took the baby to meet your parents. Its time for your dad to grow up. He shouldn't be putting you in this position.
Happens pretty often…..pretty much the way you have described it……
pretty much in the manner you have described it…….
and often for the reasons you describe.
I can tell you that it won't work….but thats not really
what you want to hear….so I won't say it.
I can't lie to you about your chances…..
but you have my sympathies.
FWIW.
Exactly I’ve had this problem as well and it’s tough as hell to get past it. The good news is usually after the first time I don’t have a problem with it again with the same woman so you just have to get past the hump.
I'm in a similar boat with my SO of 5 years. I am more of a homebody and she likes to go out more. I am a law student so it is already hot enough to find free time. But we try to dedicate a couple nights a week where we go out to do date-like activities, hang out with friends, etc., because it is important to her.
I think the key is communication and compromise. You need make clear to her that being active in doing things is important to you in a relationship. If she cares about you the way you describe, she should feel motivated to change and go out with you more, even if deep down inside it might not be her first choice.
I also get her wanting to be at home but I think her guilting you when you go out yourself is a bit of an issue. Regardless of how she might want to spend a night, she shouldn't constantly be keeping you from doing things you want to do.
OP, However you feel about what she did, you did nothing to abuse her, and you didn’t force her to be with you, physically or otherwise. You have a right to feel your feelings, and that doesn’t mean you’re being judgmental of her or anything like that. Also give yourself sometime to process what happened and don’t beat yourself up.
I don’t understand why she isn’t talking to you, I feel like there is no reason for you to be avoiding each other like this. Sit down and talk about how you are going to untangle your lives so you can both move on to be heal and be happy. It doesn’t have to be angry. It doesn’t have to be contentious. You’re not her oppressor.
Sounds like he wants to make you feel bad because he wants you focused on that,and not the fact that he stole $240 from you. Return both gifts.
Nah, he had agreed to go to the family christmas, but he completely bailed and failed to even communicate about it. This isn't something that he should be excused for just because he's young. People in their early 20s are fully capable of doing better than this.
OP he groomed you. He is trying to isolate you (choosing him over friends etc). Do you have support in anyone other than him? Family? Seek therapy if you can. You need an objective third party to help you sort out what is going on.
OP he groomed you. He is trying to isolate you (choosing him over friends etc). Do you have support in anyone other than him? Family? Seek therapy if you can. You need an objective third party to help you sort out what is going on.
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If you weren't interested in his fantasy, you should have just said so. Playing games to “see how far he goes with it” if you didn't want to participate is silly and manipulative. There's nothing wrong with fantasies/fetishes and talking about it with your spouse is what you should be doing, instead of hiding it. It's just another one of these threads that the conclusion of which is “you shouldn't talk about your sexual fantasies with your spouse” and that sucks. Don't be that way.
No, I could never harm her in any way. Also my morals are very strong for those kind of things.
Never meet in public and never get picked up the first time. Follow the same rules women/girls are told. This screams “weirdo behind the screen”.
It’s pretty easy to fool an 18 male with pics. She hasn’t proved anything. Have you FaceTimed/video chat?
Just like people say weed is a gateway to harder drugs, having a work wife/husband/crush is a gateway to cheating. Just imo
…turn
When you asked for the girl's number, what was your explanation for doing so? Did you mention your wife in that moment or during any of the preceding interactions?
What did you do?
This is some r/TIFU stuff right here. I'm sorry for the loss of your soul, OP.
Tell him to write a letter. And choose his words carefully this time. It isn’t your job to carry water for him.
i will no worries. the few times she’s gotten like this she has a very different facial expression, she talks totally different and is inconsolable. usually she’s very helpful and attentive and talkative so it really worries me
I was in a boys school and went through my college with just male friends. My workplace is also male dominated so its pretty easy to have never talked to a woman before when this is the case.
yES this specifically was exactly what i had thought too. OP wanted to buy it for himself because him buying it for himself was a sign and meant a lot for him.
her heart was in the right place kind of, but she’s sort of wrong for still buying it after his reaction to her not being able to buy it the first time.
Yea for the people attacking you lol ignore them they think no one is allowed to get uncomfortable for something they don’t normal see or have gone through but hey the ones who want to claim you need therapy and “come to Jesus moments” lol don’t pay attention to those comments. I love how some people think havin insecurity automatically means you need help/therapy no it doesn’t. If you were manipulative, let your insecurities affects you life, or trying to control things which you have displayed none of those qualities you just displayed the normal human of emotion of being uncomfortable.
That information got to me after the comment. The only information that we had that it was semen beforehand was that there was something on her face and pillow that she knew was semen. I know I'm being dragged a bit here, but without that extra information it's a legitimate question of how do you know that's what it is.
Maybe choose a decent person as a partner instead of trying to fix someone into a decent person.
Yeah, I think this is more about him than how we met.
Its more so the commute and lack of sleep, i love the job
Rent would be double 🙁
These breaks are the prelude to the total break.
Just read this reddit.
She already moved on.
Do the same.
It's better to be alone than with a leech using you for your money and housework.
Listen to your friends and family. They actually do love you, unlike your boyfriend. They can SEE that he doesn’t love you the same way that you love him. Please consider how your future will look… do you really think he would stick by you if you were suddenly unable care for him and he had to become your carer? If you got sick, like long-term sick, would he be there for you? What about kids? Do you really think he would care for them beyond playtime, or would you just pick up all the slack?
IMO, the kind of guy who would take advantage of you at every turn is the same kind of guy who wouldn’t think twice about moving on with someone else who seems to be offering him more.
I’ve read many of your comments and he just seems worse and worse the more that you describe him. Is he this selfish about everything? Somehow I have a feeling that you’re also doing all the work in bed. You obviously have a lot to offer a partner and you deserve better.
Just because something is shallow doesn't make it immoral. If you have a desire for more sex and you're not getting it at the moment, then it'd be the right thing to break up with your girlfriend first. I'm just highlighting that this isn't going to be smooth. She will get hurt, and I'm just hoping you realize that and take the necessary steps to be as tactful as possible when letting her down.
The next time he tries to insist, remind him that he has literally already implied he'd be with her if he could be, calmly explain that you've decided you've listened to him try to suggest helping him park alongside her to wait for her boyfriend to leave and that you won't be keeping him company while he does.
Walk away action star-style without looking back at the fire.
You have to ask her what her preference is. She might be the kind who will enjoy the specialness of a three of you being in the wedding, big bellied and glowing. She might prefer a celebration of romance with the baby around for only kid friendly times. Either way congratulations on your wedding and brand new family!!!! ???? I wish you a safe pregnancy and birth, a fucking awesome wedding, and a ling healthy marriage! Yay!
You’re right. A work wife is tongue in cheek.
I mean in a situation where this is real and not BS. They'd be just as likely (if not more likely) to arrest you. You were trying to force him out of the car long before he struck out at you. And your daughter was not in any danger when that happened… And your daughter isn't interested in pressing charges for “her slap.”
Don't put your hands on people even when your mad like some kind of lunatic and this shit won't happen. You're scarcely better than him in this situation… I give you credit for wanting to protect your daughter but going hands on with a dude who is nearly passed out in a parked car was a stupid neanderthal move.
If it's “just a piece of paper”, then why does your “emotional and financial” readiness matter? Why do you need another decade to “know her” well enough. Seriously.
Yeah I’ve decided at this point that this is what needs to happen. As many others have stated, we’re not compatible and this isn’t something that can just simply be worked on between us and will just result in pain and resentment. Even despite all of this, I still think she’s a sweet girl and I do care about her, but it’s just not fair to either of us if one of us isn’t feeling the attraction anymore.
but how is this possible?
Anything is possible if you lie.
So the bare minimum? He's kept her alive and that's an amazing feat only a truly great/trustworthy person could do…??
Honestly when someone like that says “I’ll kill myself if you leave.” Tell them oh well. Girl, why would you stay with someone who doesn’t love you, doesn’t respect you but wants you to stay and even threatened self harm on himself because he doesn’t want you to leave + on top of all that he doesn’t want the potential baby. He’s a POS. If you have somewhere else to go start packing in secret otherwise, call the police for a wellness check, get a divorce lawyer and get a pregnancy test.
Where's Maury?
a million red flags here and he sounds like someone who is going to self-sabotage, then rewrite the narrative to either “IDK I'm so unlucky” or “The Man has it out for me!”
Also, if he's a big marvel fan then he would know the character he based his actions on was the big bad guy from that movie, a full on fascist who thought murdering millions of people in a single go was the right thing, and the guy that Captain America fought to defeat. Fuck's sake.
Sitting in the car alone with an ex and trying to hide it…
That is your proof man. Even if nothing happened, that's a massive betrayal of trust. There's no reason to say you're in public doing XYZ when in reality, you're alone in a dark car with the seat reclined. Nothing about that situation is normal.
It stings to look at it that way, but you’re right. That’s how I should see it.
Especially when sex was becoming nonexistent between us, and she was literally trying to sext me at points where she was talking to these people at the same exact time.
She claims she didn’t actually want to physically do anything with these people, but she enjoyed the sexual validation and attention from them. I believe insecurity is part of it, because she’s constantly questioning her looks, and even with me she questioned if I actually found her attractive or not.
But at the same time, maybe it’s partly that and partly a kink like you said, where she likes to get off to these messages and attention. I didn’t think to question her on that.
I just wish I whatever her needs where that she told me instead of doing these things behind my back
A super huge red flag that will cause huge problems down the road.
Don’t ignore it or we will see you on the infidelity thread when you have kids!
Blessing in disguise. You caught it early on & right in front of you. It clearly shows what kind of person she is & it's not worth the hassle. You're still very young. This isn't the end like how you'd think. Trust me, this is a good thing. It'll only make you more mature & stronger.
I think it's also that she never trusted him to me. Aside from her being secretly untrustworthy, she never even gave him a chance to forgive. Either this was a big secret and she knew he'd dump her and wanted to come clean before it was too late and he proposed, or she really thought it was no big deal and would have told him literally any time before now. Maybe she waited until she felt secure enough to trust him? Maybe she knew he wasn't emotionally mature enough to cope with this or she would have told him years ago but she thought he now finally loved her enough they could work through it… unfortunately not the case
If he loved her enough to be considering marriage and spending his whole life with her, this should be nothing to forgive his 19yo child gf lol of 6y past. Does it hurt like hell to hear? Yes of course. But…. Compared to what you'll have to endure in a lifetime with a spouse, someone you can't even trust to forgive you, she can't marry someone like him any more than he can marry her if he sees this as situation as adultery.
But she knew he couldn't handle it then, and time up until now, and he told her point blank he wanted to end the relationship over it already. What more is there to say, trust/love on both sides is irreparably damaged. He can't go back now any more to change his reaction than she can travel in time half a decade to fix her teenage mistakes.
Tenderness is greater proof of love than the most passionate vows. I can't remember the author, but I would be wary of relying on the grand gestures you're describing as a confirmation of love. In a lot of ways, it's way easier to do those things than to be consistently kind, patient, and understanding on a daily basis.
Lessons are good to learn. Hopefully you can let yourself laugh & move on.
Would you make the same argument if he had failed to tell OP about being acquitted of child rape, and OP had kids? And in the 2 years they had been together OP had left kids alone with him?
If you think that’s wrong, just apply the same logic to other scenarios in order to understand why the lie by omission about something this huge, is bad and wrong and suspicious as hell.
You did not make a mistake. You complimented someone you care about and they took it to a really weird place that no one should have been able to predict. He isn’t mentally in a place to be in a relationship if you expressing interest in him means he thinks his entire worth to you is now based on that.
He obviously has some real insecurity problems and needs to talk to a therapist. You should find one as well as your willingness to assume total blame is not healthy in the long term either.
It's like love. You know how they say you'll know when your truly in love. We're you still anxious/scared? Sure, a bit. But you knew.
It's the same way with kids. If you're not sure, you're not ready.
The odds that the other woman got cancer from HPV and now OP got it are so low…
That’s kink shit, and dangerous kink shit at that. Every bdsm enthusiast worth their weight in self knows never to leave a tied up person alone. NOT cool OR safe
You make a lot of assumptions. For example my wife decided to stalk me and made me share location. After a few months of watching me go to work and back she got bored and stopped using the app. She was sure surprised a year later when I busted her on a whim and a mild suspicion using the same app.
From the point of view of a girl who has a girl cousin who I’m very close to. She is like a sister to me. We did everything together growing up. We’ve both seen eachother heartbroken and I think that makes you protective over eachother.
I dunno what your gf’s situation is. But if it’s similar to mine. I do NOT have a crush on my cousin. She is family and that is why I’m protective of her and want the best for her. If anyone so much as suggested I had a crush on my cousin I’d be sick to my stomach. So think before you go suggesting things. Not sure where you’re from but where I’m from cousins can be like siblings and you’d never think of them as anything else.
Another option is to use your G1 bill, and go back to college or a trade school. You've got plenty of options, and time.
Dedicating a full day to drinking and partying every weekend and considering it more important than you is not healthy or normal. Take the message. Talk to him and tell him how you feel.
Is it worth it? You have been together a year. If he's willing to change his lifestyle are you interested in giving him a second chance? Are you sick of him? You have to answer that. Walking away is fine, since he's already shown he doesn't prioritize you.
That’s what I am saying. Why now? Why didn’t her best friend tell him after the fact? Why wait three years?
Most people don't resort to name calling or vicious insults when arguing. No matter how upset they may be at the time. Abusive people on the other hand, need almost no reason to let that shit out and will do it at the slightest disagreement.
It sounds as if you have different goals in life and different ideas of how to be happy. The gaming ids made to sound as if there is very little time for you. I think in truth you have outgrown each other and you’ve come to a parting of the ways. You are unhappy and trying to make him fit into a mould that he doesn’t want to fit.
DON’T get married. Do you really want to be reminded every few days that he’d rather be with another woman? Where is your pride? Your self worth? He talks about her a lot . A LOT. If it was you going on about a past lover do you think he’d stay? No. Don’t be the third person in your own damn marriage.
BF is tapdancing. How long have you two been together? I ask, because it doesn't sound like he is very invested in your relationship.
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The truth is, you got close with your dad again after it, but you didn't make peace that he was now married to the woman he cheated on your mom with. That being said, she is also very, very petty. However, you didn't make peace with her. You can't expect peace from someone you haven't made peace with. You also can't expect adults to make reasonable choices either. To be honest, you're in a very weird predicament. There is no point of cutting your step-mother off, she's already cut off according to your post. You have no mention of her besides what you did at the wedding and her being upset. But your father, honestly, if you're willing to let this go, the issue with your step-mom, what YOU did, because yes you can make some pretty bad choices as a teen, what she did, then okay. You should talk to her and your dad and make amends. But you really can't expect people to keep the peace when you haven't been peaceful with them. You clearly hate this woman and she can freely hate you. Your dad isn't wrong for sticking up for his now wife. She might be a toxic influence on your life but you won't know until you make amends with her as well. I guess it's a risk you might have to take or just don't talk to your father anymore. Really, it's down to you and if you want to be the bigger person.
Your answer is if someone asks you a direct question they don't deserve a direct answer?
Don't people often complain when they ask their partner a question and the other person just talks around it and doesn't give a real answer?
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My bf’s lease ended and he didn’t have a place to go so I said he could move in with me until he finds a place. Now it’s almost 10 months living together and I’m frustrated that he stopped looking for housing. We never meant to live! together this long he just got comfortable having a online in maid. I cook all the meals because I like cooking, and I find that I’m the only person who cleans. He works a lot but that’s no excuse not to do some kind of cleaning even just vacuuming without me having to ask would be nice.
I think moving is a big relationship step that he didn’t even want to take, he was just desperate. Now I feel as though I’m married at 23 to a distant terrible husband and it absolutely sucks. He’s not on my lease and it’s a tiny studio apartment.
I want my space back. My independence. I really just want to be alone again. I’ve asked him many times to look for housing but I haven’t seen him setup a single apartment tour. I send him links to contact every day. I ask him now every day “did you find something to tour?” And his response is he’s busy with work. However, he sleeps around 14 hours a day. This entire experience has made him very unattractive in my eyes. I’m desperate to have him move out asap. I need advice on how to get him out.
OP is also an American tho and it still didn’t sit right?
Well is she wearing the same shoes everyday? Have you purchased her a foot massaging bath, some fungal cream? Brand new cotton socks? Another pair of the same shoes? Offered her a foot bath and massage when she gets home? Start there.
Report him to HR. They can deal with him.
It sounds like you are being financially abused. How about he moves out and finds his own place and you can pay him 600 a month rent. I'd say you need to see a counsellor and try sort this or time to split up.
The only thing I would text back is “eat shit.” That's a horrible way to treat someone – especially someone you supposedly value enough to fall in love with them. He's a dirtbag and is now trying yo use you to feel better about himself. If he was legitimately concerned about changing his behavior, he would start with therapy.
“since you're such a smart pr\ck why don't you explain how we all came from nothingness”*
As an atheist, this makes me laugh because the religious believe their gods came “from nothingness.” They swear nothing/no-one created their gods so we'll wait while they explain their hypocrisy!
You should ask your father what he intends to do if you decide to marry someone he doesn't approve of. It might help you make the appropriate decision now:
Autonomy and the right to make choices as an adult;. This will involve you having to pay for your education. Remaining under your father's thumb at least until your education finishes.
Look up negging if you haven’t heard of it. He’s trying to ruin your self esteem so that you think you’re not ever going to find anyone else who will want to be with you. The podcast dudes literally tell men to do this and then laugh. So far it seems it’s starting to work, please leave while you know it’s not true before he destroys you.
Your dad sounds like a POS. Win win if he drops from your life. Unless there is other family ties this could affect, I would eliminate someone like that from the circle.
This pretty much exact thing happened to my wife and I in 2009. I was an atheist. I’m not either a leftist ir an atheist anymore though, and Praise the Lord for that. As long as your bf isn’t a believer that’s going to be a major source of heartache for you. You father is doing the biblically correct thing so you need to either do what he say or prepare your heart for years of pain.
Of course you feel sad. He is mocking you during sex. He laughs so he can say he was joking and you are too sensitive. It’s horrible.
Sounds like you have a lot of bitterness toward your daughter’s father and you take it out on her.
Maybe work on that.
Sounds like you have a lot of bitterness toward your daughter’s father and you take it out on her.
Maybe work on that.
Seriously, what kind of creep shit is that username? Pedo vibes. ?
Her breath smelled of dick?
I feel like at least 60-70 percent of the stories on this sub boil down to someone acting stupid over sex, most people just don't flat out admit like OP tho so I give her credit for that at least lol
You’re ignoring red flags for sure.
Any man who is unable to see his kids is likely not a good dad. And he has two baby mamas. Maybe it’s a coincidence but it sounds more like a pattern.
He’s lovebombing you. Inviting you to trips and weddings before you’re even together is super excessive.
He is obsessed with looks. Whether it’s yours or his or a random celebrity. He seems to equate looks to worth and that’s toxic af.
Hes either lying about finances or a really bad dad or both. If he’s doing so well financially, why does he do nothing for his kids?
Get out of there. You could find another good lay
Why would you feel inclined to say anything to him about this??? Who ever loves be told they’ve seen their nudes by actively seeking them out??
He lacks empathy. The task is more important than the person or life behind it.
It sounds exhausting.
Other than saying no to him more frequently. No more general promises. You options are limited beyond the exiting ones. It doesn’t solve your problems but shifts then.
I agree with most of what ur saying I appreciate the feedback i just really need outside sources in my life, ive dealt w a lot and sat through a lot in all my relationships friends/dating/family and im just trying to do the healthy thing for me and its hot because i never have before