If he didn’t want to get fucked up he shouldn’t have burglarized a home ? He’s lucky that he didn’t die tbh, people have a right to defend their own homes with lethal force.
I'm not sure how he feels about it. Im scared to tell him because I think it could hurt him. I do understand where you're coming from tho. I'm not entirely sure how long they were doing stuff but I think it was at least a few months.
Whether you are insecure or not is not the point. He has chosen his friend over you. I would not stay. There is no space for you regardless of the situation, and I have read many posts on Reddit about people sleeping with their best friends. So let him be and have her.
Make a lot of photos for proof, get in touch with your family lawyer and just start the conversation. There is not an easy way out of it except if you don't want even to discuss it with her. You can go straight to divorce without even discussing it and that is also your right and totally okay to do so. Because even if you confront her she is going to lie to you, she is going to start crying fale tears because she doesn't feel guilty that she cheated but that she got caught!!! In your place I would just make an exit plan and serve her the divorce without a discussion because she knows what she did wrong.
So are you going to waste the rest of your life waiting for him to admit to something you know he's lying about? It sounds like he's had a girlfriend for the entire time you've been married. Was this also going on before you married him? Leave him. Let him cheat on the other girl. I'll bet she's not going to like it, either.
Like a piano lesson forum? I've never got a teaching job from a site. I've played music forever and as my friends have kids they have asked me to expose their kids to music. I've never really promoted lessons. If he solicits lessons on a site that could be a good move if she has proof of his intent. Otherwise it could be a libel case.
I was in the same situation. Even if he broke up with his ex 4 years ago (and he caused breakup), he chose me to replace her. He was talking about getting married and having friends, but he told me “I don't love you”. He still loved his ex. I told him that I want to break up because he didn't love me and he told me “but I don't need love, you are a good wife material, so we still can make it work out”.
I am not saying that he should love you after 3 months, but he could saying something like “my feelings for you are growing”.
Yes. It's weird. The years from 18 to 24 are incredibly formative and it's a lot of change in not a lot of years…. When you come to be 24, you'd probably be repulsed by the thought of dating someone who's 18.
Thank you. This makes sense. As I say, I don't use Facebook much so don't really understand how it all works. What I forgot to mention is that our relationship is now not listen on her main page, you have to be a friend and go into the 'more info' section to find it.
In that case maybe just start doing group activities with friends and their partners and she can start to make friends with them and build her confidence to talk to new people
I mean, yeah, that's what you are now. There is no closing that door, the horses have bolted. You can't put that back to the way it was because your relationship has changed on a fundamental level.
Honestly, I would go NC if you feel remorse for what you both have done. Just remember that a duplicitous, two-faced liar is who he is. Yes, you share blame in this, but the lion's share is his for cheating on his wife. Is that the kind of person you want to be friends with?
Thanks for answering, we’ll play safe and get the pill, learn the lesson.
So I take it he's okay with pegging?
Yeah but the thing is I am straight and now my fiancee won’t believe me because of the joke
This is so right!
If he didn’t want to get fucked up he shouldn’t have burglarized a home ? He’s lucky that he didn’t die tbh, people have a right to defend their own homes with lethal force.
I'm not sure how he feels about it. Im scared to tell him because I think it could hurt him. I do understand where you're coming from tho. I'm not entirely sure how long they were doing stuff but I think it was at least a few months.
He was blackout drunk and she was sober because she doesn’t drink. By law that is r@pe.
Whether you are insecure or not is not the point. He has chosen his friend over you. I would not stay. There is no space for you regardless of the situation, and I have read many posts on Reddit about people sleeping with their best friends. So let him be and have her.
Make a lot of photos for proof, get in touch with your family lawyer and just start the conversation. There is not an easy way out of it except if you don't want even to discuss it with her. You can go straight to divorce without even discussing it and that is also your right and totally okay to do so. Because even if you confront her she is going to lie to you, she is going to start crying fale tears because she doesn't feel guilty that she cheated but that she got caught!!! In your place I would just make an exit plan and serve her the divorce without a discussion because she knows what she did wrong.
doesnt sound like he was your boyfriend, why are you upset
I think more than a few people would disagree with you
Time passes and it clear that it's actually something that does hurt her confidence in her body.
how so? does she act in a certain way, or does she make comments about it, etc?
and how often does this issue come up?
So are you going to waste the rest of your life waiting for him to admit to something you know he's lying about? It sounds like he's had a girlfriend for the entire time you've been married. Was this also going on before you married him? Leave him. Let him cheat on the other girl. I'll bet she's not going to like it, either.
Like a piano lesson forum? I've never got a teaching job from a site. I've played music forever and as my friends have kids they have asked me to expose their kids to music. I've never really promoted lessons. If he solicits lessons on a site that could be a good move if she has proof of his intent. Otherwise it could be a libel case.
I understand the reasoning, but that would still put me off. Everyone is different though.
I was in the same situation. Even if he broke up with his ex 4 years ago (and he caused breakup), he chose me to replace her. He was talking about getting married and having friends, but he told me “I don't love you”. He still loved his ex. I told him that I want to break up because he didn't love me and he told me “but I don't need love, you are a good wife material, so we still can make it work out”.
I am not saying that he should love you after 3 months, but he could saying something like “my feelings for you are growing”.
We deserve to be loved.
He has been watching that for 40+ years. He keeps getting older, the girls stay the same age.
Yes. It's weird. The years from 18 to 24 are incredibly formative and it's a lot of change in not a lot of years…. When you come to be 24, you'd probably be repulsed by the thought of dating someone who's 18.
Move out. Tell her it’s important that you can park your cars in a safe place, and as that’s not available here, you guys are moving.
Thank you. This makes sense. As I say, I don't use Facebook much so don't really understand how it all works. What I forgot to mention is that our relationship is now not listen on her main page, you have to be a friend and go into the 'more info' section to find it.
No woman wants to parent their partner. Sounds like a quick way to kill sexual desire / intimacy / connection. Would he be open to couples counseling?
In that case maybe just start doing group activities with friends and their partners and she can start to make friends with them and build her confidence to talk to new people
I mean, yeah, that's what you are now. There is no closing that door, the horses have bolted. You can't put that back to the way it was because your relationship has changed on a fundamental level.
Honestly, I would go NC if you feel remorse for what you both have done. Just remember that a duplicitous, two-faced liar is who he is. Yes, you share blame in this, but the lion's share is his for cheating on his wife. Is that the kind of person you want to be friends with?