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Date: November 6, 2022
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You can't unknowingly and unintentionally gaslight someone. What you did was make a mistake, and with all the stress it sounds like you've been under it's a completely understandable one too.
If someone is doing something that hurts us then we naturally tend to assume it's on purpose. Sounds like your husband is being understanding about the mistake you made so it's time for you to start trying to be as well.
The only thing you can really do is apologise and move on together
Yes of course that’s true but not as much as men look at a women past.
I don’t wanna go there but this smells like a baby trap to me
Oh Lord. Make sure he never hears from you again. Stop perpetuating a toxic cycle and move on.
Troll
Stop being selfish and make the decision and stay with it. How many times are you going to break your wife’s heart? She should be the one leaving you. At this point you’ve already made up your mind. You want to be with her but you don’t want to leave the safety of your marriage.
Courts, doctors and experts disagree with you….
I I I I I
Me Me Me Me Me
God… this is an infuriating read.
She probably will wake up one day and leave you if she’s a lesbian. Sexuality tends towards being a set thing. If she does – it will be no less than you deserve for grooming a teenager.
Bruh this comment unfortunately makes u seem like you're extremely dumb.
and fully respectfully, he can’t afford to buy her a car
Yeah, and you really don't see why someone would have a problem with a friend buying a gift for their spouse that they couldn't afford to buy for them?
Take your ego out of this, acting like you deserve to be praised for what you did, look at it from this other side.
You just haven't found the right guy. Its good you are working on getting more in shape! But do not ever be sad about the color of your skin. The right person will love your dark skin
Leave her leave her leave her leave her leave her leave her
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Look everyone's opinion is valid. You don't know what this new neighbors like. I'd just forgetbit but be mindful. Never do anything w/o proof but be mindful.
You're not responsible for how he turned out. Continue with therapy. I'm sure there are therapists that specialize in this.
He needs to get over his obsession with tits for starters.
Why do people never set up boundaries? Becoming “really close and flirty with each other”, whilr you have a husband.. really?
Female here – you did the right thing.
She is an angry, self loathing individual who has and will continue to drag you down with her. The literal kindest thing you can do for this person is to break up with her and tell her why.
She needs a fat wake up call because her behaviour is gross. I wouldn't be friends with someone as toxic as her.
Hope you're ok ?
If he threatens suicide you need to call the police and ask them to send help for him because you’re breaking up with him and he’s unstable and suicidal. They will send an officer and someone from the dept of health to talk with him. They can handle it! You can live your best life elsewhere
I will definitely continue to work on myself. And even though I don’t want to move on to anybody else cause of my extreme attraction to her. I have accepted that someday I may have to. So in that case do you have any advice for ways to distract oneself and move on? I was trying OLD, but that just made me realize I was still only attracted to her. Did get a couple cool new friends out of it though.
His ultimatum doesn’t make any sense, he says he wants time with just you but is also willing to leave you over it? Therapy would be a good route
He's an idiot. If he considers your relationship with you being a trap, then he must be afraid of something.
I would never agree to something like this in a monogamous relationship.
If he wants to fuck other women, he can pack his things and leave. If that's how much those 4 years mean to him.
Making you feel like you're not good enough. What an asshole.
Just stop and find yourself someone else. If she cared she wouldn't have traveled with them. You sjould grow a spine and not only leave her, but in your future relation you should call out inappropriate behaviour and if it continues just break up.
You can stay wiyh her of course if you enjoy insecurity and infidelity.
It's probably that she is not starving but making stupid discussions with money.
I am extremely close to my family and family friends. As are many of my friends and ex's. This is NOT normal in my experience and from what I've seen.
My parents would even find it a little weird.
I'm sorry for your loss. No matter your relationship with your mother there is a grieving process that takes place.
Your bf may think he's well intentioned but it's actually quite the opposite. Him controlling and threatening you just for you getting your mother's affairs in order is extremely toxic. On top of that his behavior towards you in your overall relationship shows that at minimum he has an extreme lack of empathy. But the biggest thing is that him threatening to kick you out and make you homeless over this is absolutely disgusting behavior.
Your boyfriend has shown you who he truly is. If this is how he's treating you right now after the death of your mother then you should expect this treatment to last.
I wish I had a better answer for you but it seems you're in a really tough spot because of your living situation. All I know is that whatever you do, eventually you need to break up with this guy. He's a terrible person.
When you say animal porn, do you mean real animals going at it, bestiality, or furries going at it? All are odd, but only two are really out there.
Is it illegal? No. Is it ethical? No.
You’re dating someone who has had everything given to her, and that continues to this day. Given that kind of background I don’t think it’s a huge leap to assume her parents have raised her to be money focused and see everything in life as a form of financial transaction (relationships included).
To pretend that we’re all equals when it comes to finances is ridiculous. You are a member of the working class, you sell your labor for a wage which you then use to buy the things you need to survive. She is part of the class that gains wealth from your class. Again she doesn’t owe you a place to stay for free, that’s not what I’m saying. However given the very different economic situations you are in, and that you’re ostensibly in a loving relationship, her unwillingness/inability to sympathize with your position is concerning. Again she doesn’t have to, but she should want to make things easier on you out of her alleged love for you.
In my personal life I earn much more than my gf. And even though she tries to keep things 50/50, I willingly take on more of a financial burden than she does (rent, groceries, etc) because I love her, we are a partnership, and to make her struggle even more to keep some semblance of economic equality seems cold and unloving to me.
A lot of the commenters here have been guzzling the cultural koolaid that sees everything as a transaction. Unfortunately it appears your gf has as well. Can you really see yourself building a life with someone that sees relationships as a transaction? I know I wouldn’t.
Have you asked your mom why she allows this behavior from a grown ass man?
If they're all fine with how the house looks, but you're not, who is really the problem?
I don't think your list is bad like many others here do.
I do think the fact that you feel the need to keep it is alarming and the fact that your husband would not only read it but discard it as a gross invasion of your privacy.
Those who are saying it's bad for you to keep a list have never been in a relationship with someone who gaslights them.
Keep keeping your notes. Get a journal and keep it in there. It's not insane to want to know for sure that you're not insane: people who don't want to face the shit they do will lie right to your face about events you were there to witness. In my experience, writing it down helps me know I'm not crazy.
However I will say that keeping the list in a place you see it all the time is grudge-holding, and that might not be helping.
Throwing out the list is not divorce-worthy. Him refusing to side with you might be.
How did you guys meet?
The chance of him marrying again is WAY higher than the chance of you graduating from med school again. The numbers don’t lie.
If your attendance was that important, and assuming he don’t already know your graduation date, he wouldn’t have risked a wedding date so close to your graduation.
If your graduation ceremony means a lot to you, go. You earned it.
Are they jealous of how well you’re doing? Are they trying to steal your thunder? And trying to make sure no family can see you walk proud for your degree you’ve worked your ass off for… cos that’s what it sounds like. If golden child was graduating medicine they would all be there. Take someone special with you who appreciates you!
So yes he certainly broke your trust, though you shouldn't have told him about anything
BUT
Engaged
Within 7 months
To your coworker
Who you now know is a blabbermouth who broke your trust (in writing too, putting you at risk.)
Get a brake pedal installed on your car because you are just pedal to the floor on this relationship despite stoplights, downed trees and power lines covering the road, and obvious “road closed” signs trying to get you to travel another path.
It’s over
Why not just have all of her texts sent to an ipad or some thing? My boss's wife is an extremely jealous women, that's a whole other thing, she does this to his phone. Every single thing that he texts she knows about and will read every day on her ipda.
Go and have fun n experience. Don't forget to stock up on condoms lots n lots of them
Go up in the comments. It's disgusting behavior.
I will, thank you for the advice.
That's bs he says to deal with your trauma as if that will make it acceptable to do it to you then.
Some people, with no trauma, don't like it either.
The bottom line is he needs to understand this is a boundary he does not cross, or he will inevitably completely lose your trust and you'll start to resent him (if you already haven't).
Your first session was a couple years ago. What did you discuss in subsequent sessions?
Maybe start with couples consoling, so the 2 of you can try together. Maybe once he feels safer seeking therapy, he will be more open to it.
Yeah wth?
She's young, seeking validation, you will probably just be guy number 18 on her snap. Your call.
ewww i'd be so far gone. away from that immature liar
Also his wife maked him feel rejected. Why does he has to reasure her?
Not your fault!
Bryan, you're an asshole!
At this point it’s a good question. Up until now, I thought it was healthy.
He doesn’t pay child support as his ex never asked for it. They have a good relationship. Hell, he talks to her more than me it seems like.
While yes, the convos are about the kids she calls him to vent about the kids. SHE LEFT HIM FOR HER CURRENT WIFE.
And then I get to hear “if she wanted to have a say in my parenting she should have stayed.” Then I feel realllllly shitty.
Dude's in love.
Well, thank you for that perspective. That could very well be the case, regardless of I see it or not
You should understand that how he’s acting has nothing to do with you specifically. It’s just how he is. And considering you’re living in a dorm, you are living independently.
He can ask for any and all information, you can just not send it to him. Make a stand and straight out refuse.
He will try to compromise and try to keep escalating again, make sure you hold firm. He can care for you without treading on your autonomy.
No, my ex didn't want me and gave someone new everything!! So I tried to move on. The new guy didn't want me once he knew I was pregnant. So I was going to be a single mum.
? Feel hugged. With 10 years battling cancer you two must have gone through lots of pain and fear.
Being married is for all times and all weather. Not just for fun and sunshine. That POS husband of OP doesn't seem to see marriage that way.
Cringe bro. Are you really that desperate for some action?
If OP buys a gun, the most likely people to be shot with it are him and his kids.
As a bi person, I can say with full certainty that I never needed to kiss someone to know whether I was attracted to them. My advice is to tell her you're not comfortable with her kissing another girl while dating you and if she insists on pursuing this then that's a sign to end the relationship.
I don’t advocate them staying together. She’s clearly not able to be faithful. Just offering some friendly advice in the event he doesn’t dump her. Should SHE end it? Yeah but I don’t think she will.
He is making the sacrifice here!! He's sneaking around in secret again. Shame man..
I am going to go out on a limb and say he watches the news. Chicago is being portrayed as being unsafe for normal people. Size is not going to matter when you are facing a mob.
Two new stories I have see today about Chicago have been. Walmart is shutting down locations due to looting and residential of Chicago build an app to let others know when a black mob is or has formed. This doesn’t include the crazy amount of memes and stuff I have seen about white people need to leave cities.
Jumping to the reality of the situation if you stay aware of your surroundings and don’t go out past 10pm or engage in illegal activities. Best not to wear flashy jewelry or anything that would make you stand out.
I tend to avoid major cities (NYC, ATL, CHICAGO and all of California when I can.
Best of luck and I hope this helps.
If she lies to me again I'll leave.
if she lies to you again, you won't know, because she's a liar. lmao. dude you're being really naive.
Oh wow. She referred to your ex in an objectifying and gross way (“something like that”) and has managed to twist that into her just wanting you to be your best. Kudos to her on those mental gymnastics. I don’t believe her.
Being beautiful on the outside doesn’t make you beautiful on the inside. You ignore her shitty (hidden from you) behaviors at your own risk.
I can see how a logical person would think that but I’m dealing with a specific brand of crazy lol