Not just daycare workers, family of kids in daycare, family of daycare workers, stranger on a bus- anybody can lose a hair and then that hair gets picked up and dropped somewhere else. I've seen more than one of these strange hair posts and think that one is just a random occurrence.
No phones actively delete new messages because it's low on storage. Lol. Your husband is full of shit, and it is so deceptive and manipulate that he has coached your kids to not tell on his secret fuck buddy mistress, who he also pays $ for the pleasure of her services.
It's obviously not “simply” “daddy helper” babysitter, if he needs to go to all this effort to keep her secret from you.
She's definitely already “helping” in other ways too, or he is innapropriatly texting / flirting up a storm & hoping she will – or there would be no need for this elaborate spider web if secrets..
Why the hell are you with someone who behaves like that? He fully gets what he is doing. He just chooses to ignore your communication and your boundaries.
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Lol a better story this literally just happened but theres always trolls like you having your own problems commenting bs on other ppls posts saying their fake when some ppl just need some sound advice sure my self esteem suck and yeah im in therapy and on a cocktail of meds the repeatedly keep failing absolutely none of my post is about all that its about how he feels he can fuck anyone without a condom cause “he can trust his friends” and i cant trust anyone i fuck apparently lol i was told if i get an std hes leaving me no big deal i dont mind condoms only to find out “lul you know i dont wear condoms” tf man
Yeah I mean but you didn’t stop it? You need to grow a back bone and do 1 of 2 things:
Set your boundaries and STICK TO THEM!!! That means you go sit him down right now and say hey if you want to be with me sexually you will wear a condom. No condoms no sex- then follow through. He doesn’t want to put it on? Then say ok we aren’t having sex, get up out of bed or wherever you are literally END the encounter.
Break up with his ass because he’s old enough to understand you had a weak boundary, and instead of doing the right thing(listening to you) he chose to push it and you did not stop him. That would be enough for me to end the relationship but this is not about me.
If you can’t do either of those things please get help. You need to learn how stand up for yourself- it’s a crucial part of life.
I'm not, but thank you for your badly placed concern. I'm literally queer and not white. I'm very familiar with the pitfalls of the faith in which I was raised.
Reading all the rest of you comments, I think you are an amazing, loving and giving person – I really do mean it! I mean, carrying for someone that apparently does not care for you, working very hot to support both of you, doing chores around the house and also being considered of his feelings. You deserve so much better than someone who just leaches of you.
the fact that only comment you are taking into account is the one the supports your view means you didn't post for advice but for validation for what you've done.
The truth is the vast majority of people who have read what you've written think you are in the wrong and that you should reduce contact with someone who you have told your wife you think is extremely attractive and more attractive than her. (That is what the out of the league comment implies)
It's nice of you to help, but there is no “we.” He needs to figure his brain put. He has to want to. Driving him to appointments, picking up books, getting prescriptions, etc. Are great ways to support someone. But you can't fix him. And the next time he even looks wrong in your dog's direction you need to get the dog out. Then you can think about why you're dedicating all your time and energy to someone's else's wellbeing.
Coming out as trans is the becoming ultimate “get out of jail free card” for breaking up with someone. You end up supporting the guy/girl who’s dumped you. Facts are stranger than fiction.
No matter your opinions. FWB boiled down is friends who fuck. What ever people want to shate is up to them but regarding STDs and other partners. Whenever anyone sleeps with anyone there is the risk of STDs but people still hook up at bars and clubs. As for other partners if your only FWB then thats all it is. The entire point of FWB is being able to sleep with whoever tou want at anytime. Hence my stated dislike. Sure its ideal to be informed of them sleeping with others and what there doing but then be in a relationship thats open.
FWB is meant to be noncommittal sex with no strings. The guy could sleep with the best friend and cousin and OP and not tell any of them of the other as he is entitled to as part of his privacy.
Sure OP can be upset if he dates one of the other girls but she didn't pursue an exclusive relationship first so her loss
Sounds like he's your boss, or at least your superior at this workplace. Meaning that him hitting on you could result in a lawsuit that would destroy his life's work. He seems to understand that this would be dangerous and grossly inappropriate. One has to wonder why you can't see that.
Important to note that sterile and infertile are not the same thing. Plus doctors make mistakes. My cousin’s husband was declared sterile and now they have a son. It’s definitely his. Unlikely but not impossible in some cases.
Don't live! together and never have. That's kind of what sparked it is we were looking for places to rent and my friend said i need to figure this out before i sign a lease with him
Lmao
Tbh I'd be cracking up. Better a backpack then the potential amniotic sack
Not just daycare workers, family of kids in daycare, family of daycare workers, stranger on a bus- anybody can lose a hair and then that hair gets picked up and dropped somewhere else. I've seen more than one of these strange hair posts and think that one is just a random occurrence.
She made a choice to drink, not to get sexually assaulted. Get out of here with your rape culture.
No phones actively delete new messages because it's low on storage. Lol. Your husband is full of shit, and it is so deceptive and manipulate that he has coached your kids to not tell on his secret fuck buddy mistress, who he also pays $ for the pleasure of her services.
It's obviously not “simply” “daddy helper” babysitter, if he needs to go to all this effort to keep her secret from you.
She's definitely already “helping” in other ways too, or he is innapropriatly texting / flirting up a storm & hoping she will – or there would be no need for this elaborate spider web if secrets..
This is grotesque.
Honestly I don’t want to hear I’m right. I never said that. I’m open to opinions but you zimi were being rude about it.
He is being abusive towards her. Who gives a shit how he feels?
Why the hell are you with someone who behaves like that? He fully gets what he is doing. He just chooses to ignore your communication and your boundaries.
It's great she see's you as her mom. Some people have two moms. Make sure you acknowledge her birth mom too.
My grandmother was my mother. She raised me. My birth mother did not. Everyone's relationship with family is their own.
You posted here because they can be complicated. I think some commenters want to make sure that you don't erase her dead mother.
She is saying because we’re now good friends, and since we did it once before and never talked about it she doesn’t wanna risk feeling like that again
They're a couple. The other bedroom is for guests.
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In that case, it’s fair to call him out for the unnecessary statement, because he didn’t need to make it racial.
Seems you’re on the same page though. Just odd he went that way in discussing it.
You do not respect or enforce your own boundaries. But you are probably young and need time to get good at asserting yourself.
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Lol a better story this literally just happened but theres always trolls like you having your own problems commenting bs on other ppls posts saying their fake when some ppl just need some sound advice sure my self esteem suck and yeah im in therapy and on a cocktail of meds the repeatedly keep failing absolutely none of my post is about all that its about how he feels he can fuck anyone without a condom cause “he can trust his friends” and i cant trust anyone i fuck apparently lol i was told if i get an std hes leaving me no big deal i dont mind condoms only to find out “lul you know i dont wear condoms” tf man
Yeah I mean but you didn’t stop it? You need to grow a back bone and do 1 of 2 things:
Set your boundaries and STICK TO THEM!!! That means you go sit him down right now and say hey if you want to be with me sexually you will wear a condom. No condoms no sex- then follow through. He doesn’t want to put it on? Then say ok we aren’t having sex, get up out of bed or wherever you are literally END the encounter.
Break up with his ass because he’s old enough to understand you had a weak boundary, and instead of doing the right thing(listening to you) he chose to push it and you did not stop him. That would be enough for me to end the relationship but this is not about me.
If you can’t do either of those things please get help. You need to learn how stand up for yourself- it’s a crucial part of life.
Good luck in the future!
I'm not, but thank you for your badly placed concern. I'm literally queer and not white. I'm very familiar with the pitfalls of the faith in which I was raised.
It’s legal… nothing was against the law. Sounds like your just single and lonely. Don’t be jealous!
Ive already looked at an apartment and am contacting other apartments, the question is how to cope in the meantime
He’s 38. This is who he is, and it’s not changing, especially when he faces zero consequences for being this way.
Reading all the rest of you comments, I think you are an amazing, loving and giving person – I really do mean it! I mean, carrying for someone that apparently does not care for you, working very hot to support both of you, doing chores around the house and also being considered of his feelings. You deserve so much better than someone who just leaches of you.
the fact that only comment you are taking into account is the one the supports your view means you didn't post for advice but for validation for what you've done.
The truth is the vast majority of people who have read what you've written think you are in the wrong and that you should reduce contact with someone who you have told your wife you think is extremely attractive and more attractive than her. (That is what the out of the league comment implies)
You're welcome for the advice and the hug. If you ever in need of more of either, PM me.
You don’t owe her an apology since you two are just “friends”. She wanted all the benefits of relationship without the commitment.
But even in a “friends with benefits” situation, her trying to hook up with other guys in front of you is trashy as hell.
Just leave her. Send a message you have not desire to continue a fwb relationship or any relationship with her.
Texting for some people is not fun or good. I personally hate texting. Only thing I use texting for is to set plans or send qucik notes.
I would rather talk.
Also if he has a bunch of commitments and is busy than he is probably focusing on them.
When he is free, do you talk over a call and are they good talks?
And I obviously thanked her bought gifts presents to show my gratitude my family is very spandrels also always giving her money too so you are wrong!
It's nice of you to help, but there is no “we.” He needs to figure his brain put. He has to want to. Driving him to appointments, picking up books, getting prescriptions, etc. Are great ways to support someone. But you can't fix him. And the next time he even looks wrong in your dog's direction you need to get the dog out. Then you can think about why you're dedicating all your time and energy to someone's else's wellbeing.
Leave him.
Coming out as trans is the becoming ultimate “get out of jail free card” for breaking up with someone. You end up supporting the guy/girl who’s dumped you. Facts are stranger than fiction.
Often doing physical labor helps men in such situations.
No matter your opinions. FWB boiled down is friends who fuck. What ever people want to shate is up to them but regarding STDs and other partners. Whenever anyone sleeps with anyone there is the risk of STDs but people still hook up at bars and clubs. As for other partners if your only FWB then thats all it is. The entire point of FWB is being able to sleep with whoever tou want at anytime. Hence my stated dislike. Sure its ideal to be informed of them sleeping with others and what there doing but then be in a relationship thats open.
FWB is meant to be noncommittal sex with no strings. The guy could sleep with the best friend and cousin and OP and not tell any of them of the other as he is entitled to as part of his privacy.
Sure OP can be upset if he dates one of the other girls but she didn't pursue an exclusive relationship first so her loss
I think it’s perfectly valid that I don’t want to be with someone who still talks to their exes.
You did the right thing. Congratulations for standing up and respecting yourself
I suggest you to delete all your pics from your bf phone, laptops and any other devise he has, then immediately break up.
This is not the kind of man that.you want to make into a.husband. he is already 27 and has no respect towards women.
Break.up.
Don’t be so gullible! Look what you made a post about and youre shocked ? Lol seriously.
Are you ready to break up?
And fuck you too pt.2
Sounds like he's your boss, or at least your superior at this workplace. Meaning that him hitting on you could result in a lawsuit that would destroy his life's work. He seems to understand that this would be dangerous and grossly inappropriate. One has to wonder why you can't see that.
Important to note that sterile and infertile are not the same thing. Plus doctors make mistakes. My cousin’s husband was declared sterile and now they have a son. It’s definitely his. Unlikely but not impossible in some cases.
Thank you for your honesty and information. Greatly appreciated.
Don't live! together and never have. That's kind of what sparked it is we were looking for places to rent and my friend said i need to figure this out before i sign a lease with him
Astonishingly horrific is the word.
Narcississtic is another word that came to my mind. They give me the creeps.
I am confuse. your work pay shit but you buy him clothes and dresser ?
does he profit of you ?