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nathashaefron Public Chat Channel
Date: December 7, 2022
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Think very long and hard about this. How will you feel when you see your wife with another man/woman? Excited or upset?
The two of you made a vow to only be with each other, once that line is crossed, your marriage will never be the same. That vow will be meaningless. It’s easy to get caught up into the notion of sex without it being considered cheating. That doesn’t mean your marriage won’t change.
Open marriage has a terrible track rate of success, I can’t imagine swinging couples are much better. Unless you’re 100% sure of this, you shouldn’t do it.
He sucks donkey dick. Move on and level up.
I'm so sorry, I know how much that kind of thing stings. People can be so thoughtless and self absorbed. I don't know if it helps, but I seriously doubt any of them sat down and thought “I'm going to ghost mariblacklight2 on her birthday, because I don't like her.” What I suspect happened is that all of them got wrapped up in their own lives, mostly forgot about the party, then when time rolled around each of them probably individually thought “ahh I'm not up to this today but I'm sure it won't be a big deal if I'm the only one that doesn't show up.” Like I said, self-absorbed and thoughtless.
I think the best thing you can do is let them know they hurt your feelings and then leave it up to them to find a way to fix it. Don't put all the emotional labor on your own shoulders the way you put all the physical labor for your party on yourself. Don't try to plan an event with any of them, but be open to it if one of them wants to do something with you and actually plans it themselves to where all you have to do is show up. That will tell you who actually feels bad and may still be a decent friend vs. who isn't. Anyone whose response to this is basically “oh man I'm sorry, tell you what, YOU do all the work of planning and prepping for a replacement event and I'll show up this time” isn't really a friend. Or rather they may be a friend when everything is easy and requires nothing of them, which is basically the same as not being a friend at all.
An actual friend, though, after something like this happens would actually try to plan something to make it up to you. “Let's go to X place on Y date” means they're trying to make up for what they missed rather than just hoping you'll get over it. Those people are the actual friends.
For whatever it's worth I think your party sounded nice and I would have totally gone. You sound like a thoughtful host.
u/socku14 Thanks for your honest opinion, I will definitely work on this, I should also mention that I have spoken to my mom strongly about the boundaries and its much better at this point. Thank you again.