Wow. He couldnt tell you one of the most simple and most commonly ordered drinks available? Its a Moscow Mule, pretty much everyone whose been to a bar or anywhere that serves alcohol knows what that is. Its a super common drink, its not like its some rare drink he wanted to keep to himself. Hell i knew what it was when i was still a kid because its even commonly used on tv shows.
I personally don't know how you can work on this and expect him to change within a reasonable amount of time.
He seems wholly unwilling to actually work with you on anything and treats everything as “his way or the highway” and because you're the girlfriend in the relationship he expects you to “fall in line” with what he wants, and refuses to acknowledge that anything you want is important or even worth considering.
That's not a good partner. And I have a feeling him saying he “wants to change” is just him trying to appease you for the moment so you stick around and he can just browbeat you into what he wants even more.
He doesn't care about your family relationships and would rather sit there and ignore your friends and family and act like an asshole rather than trying to get to know them at all, yet expects you to drop everything you're doing to spend time with his family and friends every single time.
He doesn't care about your expectations for buying a house together and wants to buy one without your input because once again, it's his way or the highway. He wants to potentially financially hurt you by buying a very expensive house with a bunch of upgrades, and isn't taking your want to be closer to your family into consideration at all, even just to compromise and live! halfway between the city and your village.
And his way of planning for the future is a surefire way to have things NOT go your way at all because he doesn't want to plan it out, he just wants to go with the flow which isn't how planning works.
The bottom line is he doesn't respect you or your opinions and I'm not quite sure how you can MAKE someone respect you. So why would you not want to find someone who actually respects you as both an individual and their partner from the beginning and not someone you have to beg to do so?
Next time she says it, grab the bag, hand it to her and tell her to go. Tell her that you have had enough of her shit, and if she is that unhappy in the marriage she can leave. Tell her that if she goes you will be fighting for full custody, the house and alimony and child support from her.
I dated someone when I was 25 and he was 55. He tried the manipulation thing and all it did was piss me off and made me end it because f you. Even child me knew I had a choice that’s why I don’t understand why these adults don’t know that.
There's really not much that can rob me of sympathy of someone having an abusive partner, but forcing a pet and a baby to live! in an abusive household certainly does it.
You're enabling the abuse of the dog. Sooner or later, that abuse will impact your baby, either by her abusing the dog based on what she sees him do, or when she takes a hit or a kick because of his incessant need to assert physical dominance over something smaller and weaker than him.
So, no sympathy for you. His mental health issues aren't licenses to abuse the dog, and argue with you why he's right.
He is a garbage human and based on your lack of action and enabling… you're only marginally better.
She is dumb. The longer she stays with you the more spoiled she would be anyway. But no she needs it all now and wants to quit her important job. Money can turn people into monsters.
You knew the phone excuse was bs, yet you pretty much let that go. Then the same guy is her new “bestie?” I think “fuck buddy” is more like it. Now they have planned a road trip? This post has to be fake! If not, open your eyes and believe them man!
They’re both incredibly immature and incompatible.
OP, if in your shoes, I would clearly communicate that “we have different wants/needs in a relationship and that’s ok. In saying that, I feel it is best that we simply go our separate ways as this will only cause more resentment in the future.”
He is with you for a reason. Obviously, it is not just for sex. He must really care for you. You might just be getting into your head and mentally beating yourself up. If you really need to know, ask him. Don't be afraid to have communication about tough subjects.
time to leave
These 3 times, does it involve sex?. And do you know anything personal about this guy?
society is so sex positive nowadays
Nothing positive about it, IMO. But thems the breaks.
Anyway, maybe you should break up? Somethings you need to follow through when a situation has little to no benefit.
Yeah, I'm not arguing against it. She does not want a nursery.
Wow. He couldnt tell you one of the most simple and most commonly ordered drinks available? Its a Moscow Mule, pretty much everyone whose been to a bar or anywhere that serves alcohol knows what that is. Its a super common drink, its not like its some rare drink he wanted to keep to himself. Hell i knew what it was when i was still a kid because its even commonly used on tv shows.
He’s an idiot.
How much of YOUR money will he need to lose before you realize how problematic this is?
I personally don't know how you can work on this and expect him to change within a reasonable amount of time.
He seems wholly unwilling to actually work with you on anything and treats everything as “his way or the highway” and because you're the girlfriend in the relationship he expects you to “fall in line” with what he wants, and refuses to acknowledge that anything you want is important or even worth considering.
That's not a good partner. And I have a feeling him saying he “wants to change” is just him trying to appease you for the moment so you stick around and he can just browbeat you into what he wants even more.
He doesn't care about your family relationships and would rather sit there and ignore your friends and family and act like an asshole rather than trying to get to know them at all, yet expects you to drop everything you're doing to spend time with his family and friends every single time.
He doesn't care about your expectations for buying a house together and wants to buy one without your input because once again, it's his way or the highway. He wants to potentially financially hurt you by buying a very expensive house with a bunch of upgrades, and isn't taking your want to be closer to your family into consideration at all, even just to compromise and live! halfway between the city and your village.
And his way of planning for the future is a surefire way to have things NOT go your way at all because he doesn't want to plan it out, he just wants to go with the flow which isn't how planning works.
The bottom line is he doesn't respect you or your opinions and I'm not quite sure how you can MAKE someone respect you. So why would you not want to find someone who actually respects you as both an individual and their partner from the beginning and not someone you have to beg to do so?
Babes he’s cheated on you & now this, New Year’s resolution is to lose that guy
thank you haha
i wasnt sure if it would be strange for the girl to buy them for the first time
Pack her a bag.
Next time she says it, grab the bag, hand it to her and tell her to go. Tell her that you have had enough of her shit, and if she is that unhappy in the marriage she can leave. Tell her that if she goes you will be fighting for full custody, the house and alimony and child support from her.
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I can’t imagine any qualified therapist anywhere thinking it’s okay to be your partner’s therapist.
I dated someone when I was 25 and he was 55. He tried the manipulation thing and all it did was piss me off and made me end it because f you. Even child me knew I had a choice that’s why I don’t understand why these adults don’t know that.
How is losing your dad a job and getting in a car accident woe is me ? if I was playing woe is me I would still be in that house.
I intend on getting my stuff and cats but in order for that to happen I need money.
There's really not much that can rob me of sympathy of someone having an abusive partner, but forcing a pet and a baby to live! in an abusive household certainly does it.
You're enabling the abuse of the dog. Sooner or later, that abuse will impact your baby, either by her abusing the dog based on what she sees him do, or when she takes a hit or a kick because of his incessant need to assert physical dominance over something smaller and weaker than him.
So, no sympathy for you. His mental health issues aren't licenses to abuse the dog, and argue with you why he's right.
He is a garbage human and based on your lack of action and enabling… you're only marginally better.
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Exactly. Not good for the children.
She is dumb. The longer she stays with you the more spoiled she would be anyway. But no she needs it all now and wants to quit her important job. Money can turn people into monsters.
You knew the phone excuse was bs, yet you pretty much let that go. Then the same guy is her new “bestie?” I think “fuck buddy” is more like it. Now they have planned a road trip? This post has to be fake! If not, open your eyes and believe them man!
She’s getting fucked by Dave
And this wasn’t the first time
They’re both incredibly immature and incompatible.
OP, if in your shoes, I would clearly communicate that “we have different wants/needs in a relationship and that’s ok. In saying that, I feel it is best that we simply go our separate ways as this will only cause more resentment in the future.”
Wait until the end of the lease.
He is with you for a reason. Obviously, it is not just for sex. He must really care for you. You might just be getting into your head and mentally beating yourself up. If you really need to know, ask him. Don't be afraid to have communication about tough subjects.
The whole situation is sad. Especially for the children.