Your marriage is over. It doesn't matter what you say she will have sex with that other guy and you know it. She only asked you for an open relationship just so she can say that she didn't cheat on you. She's not worth your time. She belongs to the streets.
You have only invested three months into this relationship. I would get out now before things get more involved. There are a lot of excuses being made here, but it sounds like they are testing the waters to see if reconciling is an option.
I’ve literally never thrown a cat, just set them down, it’s that that hot. The amount of ppl thinking it’s perfect acceptable to throw a geriatric cat is appalling
He has not, we have bought each other gifts and have played a lot of games together. He has bought my some games to play together aswell. Without me asking or him asking. The images don't look fake, it honestly doesn't feel like the same person but it definitely looks like it. We spend ALOT of time together, so I don't think he's lying entirely about stuff but things just add up with this discovery I made 🙁
I feel like this is what I need to do. But I truly love him, so I feel like I can't do it right away. I'm a wreck right now. Thank you for your truthfulness!
As a literal bi married woman that's married to a man.
CHEATING IS CHEATING! DOESN'T MATTER THE GENDER! Lord I'm tired of people trying to justify their shitty fucking gross behavior by bringing the lgbt into it.
“Like u shldnt shame me from wanting to sleep with woman because I'm just trying to live my truth” or that a man should be flattered if his wife wants to sleep with other woman it's sexy! God no!
Fuck that. U shldnt be married then!
U married ur wife to be in a monogamous relationship and if that's what u want that's perfectly fine!
If she wants to sleep around u shld serve her with divorce papers. Don't let urself get suckered into some bullshit u didn't sign up for. Ur gonna be on the losing end of that shit OP.
I go to therapy I wanna try couples counseling but idk if she will agree to go Do u think there is any hope of making things better and fixing the relationships
There was a popular post a while back where a guy who had known many levels of wealthy people over the years described what he perceived as the differences between a 1 – 10 millionaire, a 20 – 100 millionaire, deep 9 figures, and billionaires. It was a fascinating read.
I just mentally it doesn’t seem like two of your compatible. He seems to be a little bit more in the Peter Pan type of mode. So I agree, I stay in a relationship with him? A huge part of a relationship is respecting the person that you’re with and you don’t have any for him, and there is no reason to have any for him.
You’re not gonna get in trouble. It’s not illegal to date someone with mental issues. But I would do her a favor and let her follow her mentor’s advice. If someone older and smarter so saying to not date, it’s probably a good idea and reasoning behind it.
A relationship might be distracting her from bettering herself mentally. Though she might feel nice around you and feel happy, it’s still a distraction from the mental work she needs to do.
I do agree that he’s insecure and you seem to have outgrown him. The only thing I’m wondering is if you’re making time to do things together? Are you still doing things as a couple? It’s great that you’re bettering yourself but I could understand why someone would feel kinda hurt if you’re always at the gym/gone/focused on work etc.
You’re holding onto the past. Take away the point of you two knowing each other for years, there’s still the issue that the way she’s communicating is simply not good. Being a private person or more like she’s trying to hide something from you? You keep making excuses for her. Trust me she’s not going to change.
I know things can fail even if I do everything as perfectly as I possibly can. But I just don’t get it. Why did she want to breakup? It’s all confusing to me. We talked about the weekend thing and agreed but then randomly poof I wanna breakup and I’m like what? But I fought for her so much and did everything in my power to make her feel safe and protected. Tried to show her that not all guys are assholes. I guess for the most part it worked but breaking up because one weekend was our alone time? Even though we talked about it? Idk. I’m so confused. I just didn’t think asking for a little bit of alone time warranted a breakup out of nowhere. I was fighting trying not to breakup because even though she was difficult I loved her. I feel like I’ll always love her no matter what. She was my firsts. I’ll never forget her.
Yes. I'm mad. I'm mad because of the obvious cultural insensitivity in this part of the thread. I hope you also have a great day.
Two years isn’t a long time, I’ve seen couples get married a lot later. It takes a lot to really get to know a person
Your marriage is over. It doesn't matter what you say she will have sex with that other guy and you know it. She only asked you for an open relationship just so she can say that she didn't cheat on you. She's not worth your time. She belongs to the streets.
Exactly.
Get to work.
You have only invested three months into this relationship. I would get out now before things get more involved. There are a lot of excuses being made here, but it sounds like they are testing the waters to see if reconciling is an option.
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I’ve literally never thrown a cat, just set them down, it’s that that hot. The amount of ppl thinking it’s perfect acceptable to throw a geriatric cat is appalling
Wtf do you mean are you right in not wanting to pay for the hotel? Did you think people would be like “yeah you should definitely be paying in full!”
First off what is wrong with your place? I know his place doesn’t work because he quite obviously married but is your place out of the question?
So many of these posts are from really dangerously insecure/clueless women and it’s really scary 🙁 Please have more respect for yourself.
He has not, we have bought each other gifts and have played a lot of games together. He has bought my some games to play together aswell. Without me asking or him asking. The images don't look fake, it honestly doesn't feel like the same person but it definitely looks like it. We spend ALOT of time together, so I don't think he's lying entirely about stuff but things just add up with this discovery I made 🙁
Your parents pay for you life at 25 ?
I feel like this is what I need to do. But I truly love him, so I feel like I can't do it right away. I'm a wreck right now. Thank you for your truthfulness!
If it becomes that bad, I will seek professional help, but I don’t think it’s there
That’s terrible advice, don’t fuck guys like that!
As a literal bi married woman that's married to a man.
CHEATING IS CHEATING! DOESN'T MATTER THE GENDER! Lord I'm tired of people trying to justify their shitty fucking gross behavior by bringing the lgbt into it.
“Like u shldnt shame me from wanting to sleep with woman because I'm just trying to live my truth” or that a man should be flattered if his wife wants to sleep with other woman it's sexy! God no!
Fuck that. U shldnt be married then!
U married ur wife to be in a monogamous relationship and if that's what u want that's perfectly fine!
If she wants to sleep around u shld serve her with divorce papers. Don't let urself get suckered into some bullshit u didn't sign up for. Ur gonna be on the losing end of that shit OP.
If she's not seeing it and he has access and control over her and her finances, it's time for you to break up for sure.
She will have to experience the consequences of the current reality
“Drugs'er bad, mmkay?”
I go to therapy I wanna try couples counseling but idk if she will agree to go Do u think there is any hope of making things better and fixing the relationships
There was a popular post a while back where a guy who had known many levels of wealthy people over the years described what he perceived as the differences between a 1 – 10 millionaire, a 20 – 100 millionaire, deep 9 figures, and billionaires. It was a fascinating read.
I agree you don’t want to force her, but your feelings may change
I just mentally it doesn’t seem like two of your compatible. He seems to be a little bit more in the Peter Pan type of mode. So I agree, I stay in a relationship with him? A huge part of a relationship is respecting the person that you’re with and you don’t have any for him, and there is no reason to have any for him.
For sure. The second affair is so much easier than the first, too. So, good luck with that.
You’re not gonna get in trouble. It’s not illegal to date someone with mental issues. But I would do her a favor and let her follow her mentor’s advice. If someone older and smarter so saying to not date, it’s probably a good idea and reasoning behind it.
A relationship might be distracting her from bettering herself mentally. Though she might feel nice around you and feel happy, it’s still a distraction from the mental work she needs to do.
Youre pribably right unfortuantely. What should i do
I do agree that he’s insecure and you seem to have outgrown him. The only thing I’m wondering is if you’re making time to do things together? Are you still doing things as a couple? It’s great that you’re bettering yourself but I could understand why someone would feel kinda hurt if you’re always at the gym/gone/focused on work etc.
You're absolutely right. I just got a bit too intense.
Thank you for the correction.
You’re holding onto the past. Take away the point of you two knowing each other for years, there’s still the issue that the way she’s communicating is simply not good. Being a private person or more like she’s trying to hide something from you? You keep making excuses for her. Trust me she’s not going to change.
I know things can fail even if I do everything as perfectly as I possibly can. But I just don’t get it. Why did she want to breakup? It’s all confusing to me. We talked about the weekend thing and agreed but then randomly poof I wanna breakup and I’m like what? But I fought for her so much and did everything in my power to make her feel safe and protected. Tried to show her that not all guys are assholes. I guess for the most part it worked but breaking up because one weekend was our alone time? Even though we talked about it? Idk. I’m so confused. I just didn’t think asking for a little bit of alone time warranted a breakup out of nowhere. I was fighting trying not to breakup because even though she was difficult I loved her. I feel like I’ll always love her no matter what. She was my firsts. I’ll never forget her.